Author notmakingsense Posted May 16, 2005 Author Posted May 16, 2005 NMS- How are you hon? Hey Mz. Pixie! I'm glad you are hopping in on this thread. You are one of the few that have stuck with me through all my old threads about this woman! This still is getting me really down. Every free moment I get, and my mind wanders to her. I have a feeling that this one is going to take a long time to get over. I'm sticking to NC so far, and it does seem to be helping me a little. Not by helping me get over her, but by making me feel stronger and more in control of my own life. She may be completely wrong for me, but I still find myself hoping that she'll break her NC and call me. I guess I'll measure my success by how long it takes me to stop wanting her so badly. -- NMS
Mz. Pixie Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 So, it's been three weeks??? You need to stick to NC. I don't believe all her BS excuses. I think she's just not into you as much as you are to her. She's content with the relationship the way it is- where she can throw you crumbs and you're not. You want more- and there is nothing wrong with that. Don't torture yourself with thoughts of her with someone else. The reality is that even celebrities have someone who is sick of their crap! Even if she does date someone else, who else would have put up with everything that you have?? I wish you would have done this a couple of months ago when you first came to LS but better late than never. If she does contact you, don't jump and call her right back. Wait a bit, like a day or two. Then keep it casual unless she brings it up. I'm proud of you- I know how much you care for her and how hard this is! You and COC need to form a NC club!
Author notmakingsense Posted May 17, 2005 Author Posted May 17, 2005 Its only been 2 weeks. Well... not exactly.... I last saw her face-to-face 2 weeks ago, and that's when I sent her the note telling her that we need to move forward or move on..... A week ago is when I crumbled again, pestered her with voice-mails, and finally got a return voice-mail saying she needs to "process things" and didn't want to talk in the mean-time. So, I'll call it a week of NC. I *so* feel like writing her a note to tell her that I'm assuming her lack of contact means its over and that I'm taking the "move on" route. Somehow, I think that it will make me feel better. Is it fair for me to ask for some kind of "final statement" from her? This "ending things without talking about it" bullsh*t is driving me crazy.
Mz. Pixie Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 It is fair, NMS. The problem with this is, internally it's an excuse to contact her. You're hoping when you call her she will admit she's missed you and wants to move forward. In reality that's probably not going to happen or she would have contacted you anyway already. At the very least I would wait a MONTH before contacting her. Then I'd shoot her a quick e mail and say something like- I've given you a month to make a decision. I take your silence to mean that you aren't able to move forward with the relationship. I really hate that because I really loved you but I've got to take care of myself and my needs. You're just not able or willing to meet them apparently. Take care and I will remember you fondly. I know it's hard. You need to think of something to do to keep busy!
Author notmakingsense Posted May 17, 2005 Author Posted May 17, 2005 Mz Pixie -- you are right, I'm secretly hoping the communication will open the door to moving things along. Your month-long wait is a good suggestion. Thanks for helping to keep me strong.
queenie01 Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 Can one of you please help me...im driving myself crazy. So far we have been broken up 2.5 weeks and have had no contact for 11days. We used to workout together everyday at work at 11 but for the past 2 weeks he has gone at 12, now all of a sudden this week he is going at or around 11 again and its making me mad. I dont really want to see him...then to top it off he wont even look at me or talk to me... I feel this is so immature. Last time he contacted me was 2 weeks ago from today, to state that he had an idea...he wanted to keep my stuff that was at his house and get together in a couple weeks to talk and see how we feel... i agreed because i really want him back but his lack of contacting me is making me believe he has no intentions of getting together or talking to me... Any ideas?
Mz. Pixie Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 Queenie, Same thing they told you in the other thread. Leave him alone. Have you read "He's just not that into you?" You should.
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