Dragonstar94 Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Hey guys, so just a little bit of backstory, I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 17 and we've been dating for about 1.5 years and "talking" for about 2 years. So this is my first relationship I've ever had and a couple of days ago I dropped the news that I wasn't happy anymore with this relationship and I didn't see a forseeable future with one another. And worst of all I told her all of this through text! I know she's upset and I probably should have told her face to face about it but it's too late now. I was too afraid to talk to her in person because I'm a very emotional guy and I was afraid I wouldn't get my message out through all of the tears. Well anyway, she took it pretty hard and I think I took it even harder. My girlfriend is very independent and doesn't need me in the slightest. So after I gave her the news we went a few hours without contact until about 11:30pm or so. She calls me on the phone and just makes small talk. We eventually talk about our feelings and I tell her that why I don't feel great about our relationship anymore and so on. So behind teary eyes and a stuttering voice I tell her I still love her and miss her and we hang up. The next day we pretty much go all day without any contact until around 11ish at night. She calls me again to talk about the same stuff and I talk to her about my day and how I miss her and how I wonder if we'll get back together. We talk about how we may go bowling with a group of friends this Saturday to see if things still work out but I'm still shaky on this. Anyway, it comes to this morning when I text her and tell her that I don't think our relationship is going to work out either way and of course she gets mad and upset again. She's been sending me texts saying how I have taken a 180 degree turn in this relationship and how I'm just like her ex-boyfriend that took advantage of her and that I'm only in this relationship for the sex and that the two years that we've been together were meaningless. She says that she's still going to go bowling Saturday with all of my friends regardless if I go or not. I'm just confused in this stage of our relationship. Should I get back with her and just try and work some things out? I miss her and love her so much but I'm afraid of hurting her again if it doesn't work out
coryreply Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 I'm confused as to why you broke up with her. You dumped her and then the next day, you're talking about getting back together. It sounds to me like you're confused about what you want. You can understand her frustration, I'm sure. Breaking up is something you do when you are sure that you're ready to end a relationship and move on. Otherwise, you sit down and discuss with your GF what's maybe not going so well and you give her a chance to work on it. In hindsight, is breaking up really what you wanted to do here?
mightycpa Posted September 16, 2015 Posted September 16, 2015 So you're in love, but you're not happy being with her and you don't see a future together. Why get back together then? Who cares what she thinks now? It's over. And she's going to hang out with your pals? That's pretty pushy. Tell her to start hanging out with some high-schoolers instead. Time for you to start looking for your second relationship ever.
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