finklew Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Me and my GF have been together for 3,5 years. For one year we lived together in a different city (both studied in this city), but now she´s moved to a different country and I´ve stayed here. When she first decided to study in a different country, I kind of broke up with her. After a couple of days, she came knocking on my door asking for another chance and telling me that we should try it out (long distance relationship). I came to my senses and agreed upon it. After one month away, she told me that she didn't know if I'm the one for her anymore. We´ve been through a whole lot of things; traveling to a different country three times, multiple small trips in our country, we did everything together and even though we fighter, we always ended up a better couple afterwards (there´s so much more to tell, but I can't write it all down). I´ve asked her ´´whats missing since you're unsure about this?´´. She replies ´´I dont know, I just have to figure it out. Stay away from you, see if Ill be missing you´´. In my mind, this doesn't make sense. She even told me that she sees the possibility of us together for a long time, but that she's afraid of commitment, scared of what would happen if she figured out that I'm not the one... For me, finding the ´´right one´´isn't the way to do it. If you throughly love someone (she does), you have to try to make it work and do your best, sacrifice for one another. Sorry for my bad english, but i would love to get som help/tips.. Thanks!
GorillaTheater Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Personally, I don't believe in this The One business, but rather a Pool of Many that may be large or larger depending on your tastes and preferences. Here, she's asked you for space. Give it to her, absolutely. The ball's in her court. Get on with your life in the meantime, and if and when she reaches out to you, figure out at that point whether there's room in your life for her.
Author finklew Posted September 17, 2015 Author Posted September 17, 2015 Personally, I don't believe in this The One business, but rather a Pool of Many that may be large or larger depending on your tastes and preferences. Here, she's asked you for space. Give it to her, absolutely. The ball's in her court. Get on with your life in the meantime, and if and when she reaches out to you, figure out at that point whether there's room in your life for her. Thanks.. You see, she means so much to me; I can't see myself without her. But maybe thats just for now..
preraph Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 If she's looking for "the one," she's likely to just keep looking. And if she is under 30, then she's just not ready to settled down yet would be my guess, and no reason she should. If she is really young, in her early 20s, you should let her go explore and become her own woman.
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