katiegrl Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 He is just telling you what he thinks you want to hear.. This is just his game.... that of course doesn't mean he isn't a good catch.. he just has a style that is a bit based on wooing. What do you think of his words ? The irony is this is NOT what most women want to hear. Most women would know this guy is living in fantasy right now and NOT reality! Most women know when a guy comes on like that, he is either full of crap, or again, just not living in reality. Personally, I would be turned OFF if a man said those things to me on first meet! Yuck ....animal crackers. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 15, 2015 Author Share Posted September 15, 2015 Sorry that is not normal behavior. I'd be running.... And see my last post. Curious as to why you even believe him.... when you have said your self you don't believe anything a man says on first few dates. He sounds looneytoons. I believe what? he's in love? of course not. I believe he's infatuated, yes. And infatuation has nothing to do with love. So I like him, I just don't know what to do with HIS infatuation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 15, 2015 Author Share Posted September 15, 2015 Infinite power over him? Seems like a fun adventure. Maybe "normal" wasn't the right fit. Maybe you're on to something. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 I believe what? he's in love? of course not. I believe he's infatuated, yes. And infatuation has nothing to do with love. So I like him ***, I just don't know what to do with HIS infatuation****. If it were me Gaeta, I would ignore it. You have "infinite power over him" after one meet? Come on. He just doesn't sound right in the head.... JMO....... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 15, 2015 Author Share Posted September 15, 2015 Could he just be a hopeless romantic? lol Link to post Share on other sites
Yummm Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 Could he just be a hopeless romantic? lol YES Oh come on people, at this rate nobody will ever find love because everyone needs to fit this 'perfectly normal' criteria or else they get crossed off instantly.. Give people the benefit of the doubt, going on another couple of dates won't do any harm if she's genuinely interested in this guy and doesn't have a gut feeling to run as most would with someone who jumps in too fast. Gaeta, he's an adult, as are you, see how it goes and try figure him out a little more! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 Could he just be a hopeless romantic? lol Sure, *hopeless* being the operative word there ...lol Gaeta, I don't want to ruin your moment, if you like him, then date him.. Just saying that for me, I would be turned off. I'm attracted to men who are pragmatic, not hopeless romantics. That's just me ....you do you ...and see how it plays out. Do you have another date lined up? If you mentioned that already, I apologize I missed it. Keep us posted! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 15, 2015 Author Share Posted September 15, 2015 Sure, *hopeless* being the operative word there ...lol Gaeta, I don't want to ruin your moment, if you like him, then date him.. Just saying that for me, I would be turned off. I'm attracted to men who are pragmatic, not hopeless romantics. That's just me ....you do you ...and see how it plays out. Do you have another date lined up? If you mentioned that already, I apologize I missed it. Keep us posted! These men usually ALWAYS make me run the other way. For some reasons this time he doesn't. First date was Sunday, he wanted to see me again last night Monday and I couldn't, he mentioned tonight and I cannot tonight either. I work days and he works nights so on weekdays we have from 18h to 21h for dates and that includes getting ready, driving, etc so we don't have more than 2 hours together if we get together on weekdays evening. We could not rush this thing even if we wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 These men usually ALWAYS make me run the other way. For some reasons this time he doesn't. First date was Sunday, he wanted to see me again last night Monday and I couldn't, he mentioned tonight and I cannot tonight either. I work days and he works nights so on weekdays we have from 18h to 21h for dates and that includes getting ready, driving, etc so we don't have more than 2 hours together if we get together on weekdays evening. ------ ***We could not rush this thing even if we wanted.***** Blessing ....... Okay follow your gut then ....if he seems legit, then go for it and have fun! Looking forward to how all this unfolds.... Fingers crossed (there really needs to be an emoji for that).... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 He was going on and on about things he finds 'perfect' about me. He has a really bad case of infatuation. He loves my hair, my face, my teeth (lol), my voice, the tone of my skin, everything. Then he said: You're so perfect in every way (silence) I fell in love with you instantly. Then he pursues with it's so bad he can't eat or sleep, he feels full of energy like never before and he could battle any obstacles in front of him, then he said something about I have infinite power over him. This sounds very off to me. Telling you that you’re beautiful and would love to see you again would be more than enough, more in the sane range. This is a grown man sleeplessly thrashing around in bed at night with the thought, “That hair! Those teeth!” running through his mind?? Really? How dramatic! This could be love bombing. His wanting to see you again the very next day fits the love-bomb profile. If you decide to keep seeing him, read up on love bombing. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 These men usually ALWAYS make me run the other way. For some reasons this time he doesn't. First date was Sunday, he wanted to see me again last night Monday and I couldn't, he mentioned tonight and I cannot tonight either. I work days and he works nights so on weekdays we have from 18h to 21h for dates and that includes getting ready, driving, etc so we don't have more than 2 hours together if we get together on weekdays evening. We could not rush this thing even if we wanted. Two hours is still two hours you wouldn't have had otherwise. And, this also becomes about "making time" for people who interest us. If a person likes another person enough, they will make the time and use the time they do have available to spend with them. And, if he's blowtorcher or wanting sex right away, the opportunity doesn't exist at this point. So that pushes that option out easily. Two hours, is enough to have a nice dinner spent talking and getting to know each other and actually helps keep it exciting . . . you'll be wishing for more time with him if it keeps moving forward. At least the connection will be maintained better than not being able to see each other at all for another week. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 15, 2015 Author Share Posted September 15, 2015 blowtorcher and love bombing. Ok I'm on it. What did we do before google eh! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 blowtorcher and love bombing. Ok I'm on it. What did we do before google eh! What did we do before cell phones and texting and internet advice sites? We waited until we got home to see if the guy called us and left a message on our answering machines and/or called us later that night, and didn't do all the mind-f'ing we do because of hearing stories about other people's experiences, etc., that cause us to project on new people before we even give them a chance to see for ourselves who we are dealing with. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 LOL.. My boyfriend and I fell head over heels in Love within a month. And even we both admit it's way too soon..... one month felt VERY quick for us... But after one date? Hmmmm............. It screams player to me. The only guy who's told me he loved me after one date was a player and was simply infatuated with my body and not me. Only players typically purport to have " fallen in love at first site ":sick: With my boyfriend, we felt a connection instantly. Like we had known each other before. And there was strong attraction and he was nervous yet he felt totally comfortable with me in a very short time span..... I certainly don't believe u can fall in love before you get an essence of knowing a person. I believe in strong infatuation instantly...... But falling in love, in my honest opinion, takes hindsight ; to look back and be like, wow, so we DID really have something.......... This guy sounds like a player. I've known a couple who fell totally head over heels and actually stayed together..... While they FELT a " love at first site " they definitely didn't say it until a month or so in..... They were too conscious of throwing it around. This guy is a blaring red flag in that he didn't even think to hold off at least month or so, just so that it wouldn't seem like he was throwing it around.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 15, 2015 Author Share Posted September 15, 2015 HOLY SH$T I just went online I had not gone in a while. They changed the whole visual of the dating sites and options that used to be only for paying members are now available to all. There were 2 secret comments on his profile I was unable to see before and that I can see now. AHHHH!! I feel sick lol First comment was written in February and it talks about playing strip poker Second comment was 2 DAYS AGO and the woman replies to the February comment saying: Lucky you if you win you will get to see his big d*ck!! OMG!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
lgspot Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 HOLY SH$T I just went online I had not gone in a while. They changed the whole visual of the dating sites and options that used to be only for paying members are now available to all. There were 2 secret comments on his profile I was unable to see before and that I can see now. AHHHH!! I feel sick lol First comment was written in February and it talks about playing strip poker Second comment was 2 DAYS AGO and the woman replies to the February comment saying: Lucky you if you win you will get to see his big d*ck!! OMG!!!! Run Gaeta Run!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 Well.. there ya go.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 HOLY SH$T I just went online I had not gone in a while. They changed the whole visual of the dating sites and options that used to be only for paying members are now available to all. There were 2 secret comments on his profile I was unable to see before and that I can see now. AHHHH!! I feel sick lol First comment was written in February and it talks about playing strip poker Second comment was 2 DAYS AGO and the woman replies to the February comment saying: Lucky you if you win you will get to see his big d*ck!! OMG!!!! :laugh: oh, man.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 15, 2015 Author Share Posted September 15, 2015 I've been blowtorched, gaslighted and love bombing ALL at the same time !!! lol 3 Link to post Share on other sites
menyou Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 It really is unpleasant to know that you can't trust anything anyone says or does. Except for yourself. He might be genuine or completely full of it. Decide whether you want to stick around to find out. That's really all you can do. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 I've been blowtorched, gaslighted and love bombing ALL at the same time !!! lol So much for him being a "hopeless romantic".... Ugh. Another bullet dodged thanks to messages you found on line... I want to say something, but I know YOU already know so no need to say it. But girl.....PHEW ....someone's watching out for ya.....let's call it your little angel.... :) Next! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 Question: Is it possible men feel it that fast but it's just not socially acceptable to say it out loud? As a guy, I can say "yes" that totally happens. Met my current GF and I knew after our first date she was special and I had warm fuzzies for her. Of course I waited until after our 3rd date to tell her I was in love with her. Didn't want to seem crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 I was going to say that that the only guy who went almost as fast with me was the controlling. manipulative, insecure, jealous, emotionally & physically abusive one so this kind of behaviour I run a mile from... Until I saw this.. HOLY SH$T I just went online I had not gone in a while. They changed the whole visual of the dating sites and options that used to be only for paying members are now available to all. There were 2 secret comments on his profile I was unable to see before and that I can see now. AHHHH!! I feel sick lol First comment was written in February and it talks about playing strip poker Second comment was 2 DAYS AGO and the woman replies to the February comment saying: Lucky you if you win you will get to see his big d*ck!! OMG!!!! Um so, are you gonna see him again? (kidding! ) Link to post Share on other sites
wb1988 Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 Oh come on people, at this rate nobody will ever find love because everyone needs to fit this 'perfectly normal' criteria or else they get crossed off instantly. 100% true. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 (edited) Oh come on people, at this rate nobody will ever find love because everyone needs to fit this 'perfectly normal' criteria or else they get crossed off instantly.. Give people the benefit of the doubt..... I am all for giving people the benefit of the doubt...but when a guy says this: Here how it went. He was going on and on about things he finds 'perfect' about me. He has a really bad case of infatuation. He loves my hair, my face, my teeth (lol), my voice, the tone of my skin, everything. Then he said: You're so perfect in every way (silence) I fell in love with you instantly. Then he pursues with it's so bad he can't eat or sleep, he feels full of energy like never before and he could battle any obstacles in front of him, then he said something about I have infinite power over him. on first date, or first couple of dates....COME ON! This bozo is NOT dealing in REALITY here..... he's looney tunes! Yes be open...but it's also important to BE SMART! This was over-the-top and not normal behavior for a man who is seriously interested in pursuing a healthy, mutually-rewarding RL with a woman. It's the behavior of a man who is looking for something fast and furious (including sex no doubt, and the sooner the better).... and someone to join him in never-never land.....after which he's off and running chasing the next fantasy. Edited September 15, 2015 by katiegrl Link to post Share on other sites
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