Brunette85 Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Okay so I have known the guy in this situation for about a year and a half. Initially we dated for a few months, and then decided we were better off as friends. During the time we spent as friends, this guy was clearly jealous of me dating other people, but was always a good friend despite that and was there for me during some crucial down times I had. Earlier this Spring, he told a friend of mine that he was into me. I was kind of in a rut guy-wise and decided maybe he and I could start hanging out more regularly. We began hanging out again and he was quick to say he liked me. We had sex and even though it wasn't our first time having sex (just this year it was), I made sure I told him the next day I'm not looking for a FWB situation. He said he wasn't either, and it was never brought up again. He's been very sweet and acted very boyfriend-ish, but there was never talk of exclusivity. I'm not exactly one to commit 100% either so this never bothered me. There have been situations where he has referred to us as "talking", and wanting me to make clear to other men that he is talking to someone. However, Friday my friend was showing me the new app she got, Tinder, and guess who's face pops up? I of course tell him about it, and he acts like it's no big deal. I was pissed! Yesterday I texted him and talked to him about it, and although he never denied implying that we were talking or that he liked me or that it was him that has been doing essentially all of the pursuing, he also pointed out that he never said that he didn't want to date other people. I told him I felt like a bit of a fool (which he said was on me, not him), but that although I refuse to be just an option for him, we could remain friends (which he was happy about). I also requested that he bring my stuff that has been left at his house to work today when I saw him... I said "Can you bring my stuff to work? Just don't trash it." He responded with "I'm not going to trash it. You need to chill out." Conveniently he "forgot it" today. Why the head games?!
CarrieT Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Stop having sex with him and wait until you are actually in a committed relationship. You are giving it up and the result are the mind games.
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