GTR King Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 (edited) Ok so in the last 1-2 months or so I have been enjoying myself and not on dating site that much.... So yesterday was looking on POF Tinder/OK Cupid.... so I Message a girl (Ok cupid) she looks nice & like my profile 1st. Me Hey How are you? You been up to much? xx Her Txt me Me Ok give me your number & I will text you xxx Her (Her number) xx Her xx I texted her she replied... Spoke last night via text (Good convos) Me maybe we should meet up & get to know each other? xxx Her cool sounds good xxx Me maybe go for a drink or some food if that sounds good? xxx Her yeah sounds good too me xxx Me how about this weekend if thats any good? xxx Her what date is that? xxx Me sat 19th or sun 20th xxx Her is Friday any good? xxx Me sorry I am busy Friday xxx Her what about next Friday? xxx Me sorry I am busy Fridays can you do another day? xxx Her I am sorry but I am busy bbe but might be able to do Sunday xxx since the spoke till she went to bed & Have spoke a bit today we last spoke bout 2.30ish... What should I do next?? Should I wait till replies to me??? Don't wanna text to much... she message me 1st this morning. Edited September 14, 2015 by GTR King
sid3 Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 I'd say you're over thinking it too much. You could easily spend as much time wondering if her pictures are several years old. I'd say just show some interest and avoid acting desperate, it's not that fine of a line. The fact she messaged you first is probably something you find encouraging, don't take it too seriously. Remember you're online dating, and it means nothing. 1
bluefeather Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 this generation is so weird with all the texting... call her! omg.. sorry. am I starting to feel old? I always felt the same way I've always felt. I don't really notice it, but when things like this come up, I just don't get it. you sound like a robot. I'm sorry. maybe that's the way things are done nowadays.. will stop digressing. 2
Author GTR King Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 Thanks she has message me this evening & been texting a bit
sid3 Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 That's good, so chat her up. Just don't make the same mistake so many people make, men and women and get too invested. 1
Author GTR King Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 she wanna bring her mate & asked me to bring a mate. don't like idea
d0nnivain Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Her bringing a friend is a safety issue. OKC & texting still makes you a stranger. Grab a buddy. Go on a cheap double date for a drink or a coffee. 1
sid3 Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Her bringing a friend is a safety issue. OKC & texting still makes you a stranger. Grab a buddy. Go on a cheap double date for a drink or a coffee. Kind of disagree, there's enough public venues to meet where bringing a friend isn't required to feel safe. Why doesn't she just bring her dad or big brother.
d0nnivain Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Kind of disagree, there's enough public venues to meet where bringing a friend isn't required to feel safe. Why doesn't she just bring her dad or big brother. You are not a woman (I don't think). She's bringing a friend because that makes her feel safe. For some women, just being in public isn't enough. She doesn't bring her dad or her brother because she does want it to be a date. You don't have to go. She spelled out for you the terms under which she's willing to meet you. If you don't like them, don't meet. But at this early stage do not try to dictate what her comfort level ought to be. For pete's sake if you met her in a bar, odds are her friends would be there so it's not all that different. 1
Author GTR King Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 but she wanted to double date with my mate but issue is it's his ex so not good so dunno what to do now
d0nnivain Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 but she wanted to double date with my mate but issue is it's his ex so not good so dunno what to do now That does add a whole new wrinkle. It's also a small world. When you said you met her from OL it never even dawned on me that you have friends in common. Since she does have a sense of who you are because her GF dated your buddy, the safety issue is no longer a valid reason for making this a double. If you do date this girl, your buddy & his EX will be thrown together. The more you write, the more I think this isn't worth the effort. As a last ditch effort, I'd say something along the lines of "as you know my buddy used to date your GF. While I can appreciate the idea of a wing-woman on a 1st meet from OLD, I'm not exactly a stranger. I don't think throwing them together is a good idea but as his friend I'm not about to get involved in setting her up with another dude. I would like to meet you on Sunday but it's gotta be just us" If that doesn't work for her, let it go.
Author GTR King Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 I would rather meet her on my own & get to know here more... Don't really want her mate to come as she my mate's ex.... I think love you is bit full on & she keeps saying bbe loads... Not sure what to do... I would like to meet her...
Author GTR King Posted September 15, 2015 Author Posted September 15, 2015 Update She has agreed to go on date with me on her own & will let me know tonight... Will see what happens etc 1
Author GTR King Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 (edited) Last update she stood me up.... Was meant to be meeting her at 3.30 at car park across from pub (Town 30 mins from me) got there 3.30 (When i was meant to meet her) 5 mins later she arrives texts me straight away saying cya soon xxx (10 Mins later) says stuck at gate xxxx (There was no gate) (20 mins later) Says she was ill & felt like it for 4 days & couldn't meet up etc and was sorry for messing me about. I bet in a hells chance she didn't mean it she drove right past my car (2 spaces right beside me) looked at me & my car drove to other side of car park made me wait 30 mins then cancel date... She not worth it at all... she moaned about her ex on Facebook Yesterday told me to not worry about it... I wasted my petrol & driving all the way there.... she not worth it & didn't have the guts to see me Edited September 20, 2015 by GTR King
Author GTR King Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 Really? So how can i meet girls?? don't get much luck in clubbing if i do they wanna kiss/dance but go no further.. Don't do any classes etc... online dating is my only option for now. she really did annoy me but o well
bluefeather Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 Really? So how can i meet girls?? don't get much luck in clubbing if i do they wanna kiss/dance but go no further.. Don't do any classes etc... online dating is my only option for now. she really did annoy me but o well I don't know you. Can't really make recommendations. I am not looking right now but if I was, I would socialize with what I enjoy. Book stores, concerts, goth clubs, occult meetups, hell I have been hit on at arcades but good ones are hard to find nowadays. I'm not saying what you're doing is wrong; I have pretty much zero experience with that unless you count when AOL first came out and cyber dating was all the rage. But if all you are doing is sitting on your computer, garbage in is garbage out.
Author GTR King Posted September 21, 2015 Author Posted September 21, 2015 Thanks I Do look at girls when i go out with friend etc... I don't sit on my laptop all the time... So will find someone one day 1
morrowrd Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 If it were me, I'd figure out how to make time on Friday. At least for a first date...then go from there.
Author GTR King Posted September 21, 2015 Author Posted September 21, 2015 Thanks I honestly did try to make time but I couldn't do the Friday she suggested... So choose the Sunday
Yummm Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 Eh, she sounded like a flop from the get go.. On to the next! Don't be disheartened, OLD is brutal, but you need to keep going through them until someone decent comes along. I've been on 12 dates over the last month and only a few have been 'good'.
Author GTR King Posted September 21, 2015 Author Posted September 21, 2015 Thanks for the advice... Gonna keep at it enjoy life & keep meeting them until the right one comes along 1
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