Dan2121 Posted May 15, 2005 Posted May 15, 2005 I'm 21 and recently I moved to another state. The big change for me is the dating scene here, completely different. I'm used to going to this big club, the place was always packed. My new town is alot smaller and the closest thing to a club is a pool hall ,but most of the women there are either too old or married. So now, if I see a girl that I'm half-way attracted to, I ask for her number. I never asked for a number before without at least knowing if they were into me and dateable. I got a few numbers but I wasn't interested in dating any of them. That changed last week on Mother's day. My mother made a trip that day so I had to take her to dinner. We went to this resturant and you have to pay before your seated. While my mom was ordering I see this adoreable waitress staring at me. We're seated and even my mom said something about it. AFter a bit I went up to the salad and she gave another look. So after I washed up, I went to the counter and she was there with two other coworkers and ask her if there was any chance I could get her number? She seemed a bit shy and she asked my phone number? I said yes of course and she ripped of a piece of paper and wrote her name and number down and gave it to me. I then talked with her a bit and she asked if I was engaged and stuff like that. I didn't get to talk but maybe a minute and she had to get back to work. So a week later and now I'm completely stumped. First time I called no answer. The second time I got her roommate whom said she would have her call me back but she never did. Like I said I'm new on the randomly asking for numbers. I thought if a girl gives her number out like that she's interested. Should I to assume since she didn't call back,she's not interested. I never heard of someone giving there number to pretty much a complete stranger to be nice. It doesn't make sense, she could've said no or she had a bf. I never got a number like that and then a cold shoulder, so whats going on here? It's a home phone number, so I can't leave a txt msg or anything. I would hate to give up without even getting a hold of her at least once. Is there some rule if a guy asks for a number the girl will not call back until that talk first?
westernxer Posted May 15, 2005 Posted May 15, 2005 That's the way it goes sometimes... you never know who's playing and who's not until you know. Next time call once, leave a message, and don't call back. Leave the ball in her court and move on. Plenty of other girls who will actually return your call. Just don't call them repeatedly... it makes you look foolish and desperate.
Jennifer'sSecret Posted May 15, 2005 Posted May 15, 2005 In this situation, yes, you have called twice, but once there was no answer. The second time was leaving a message with a potentially flaky or jealous roommate. Call again, leave another message.
westernxer Posted May 15, 2005 Posted May 15, 2005 I've actually callled girls and left messages with their roommates, then I would wait a few days or not call back at all. Some of the girls would end up calling me back. Sometimes you never know...
Sukotto Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 She could be using it as an ego boost but she might just be busy. I'd persist, phone her once a week until she does answer. Is 30s of your time too much? Though keep looking for others if she doesn't answer after a few weeks i'd put it down to her not interested and go with the other girl you'll have found by then
noname Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 no telling whether or not she got your message. i'd try again in a week. plus, because of your locale, you may need to be a little more persistant because there is not that much to choose from. i usually have a three call rule but in dire circumstances like being in the boondocks, one has to turn the pride dial down a little bit...
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