2011 Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Why did my new GF suddenly tell me about a guy she met on dating site a while ago, whom she is good friends with, but there was no chemistry, and meets up with now and again but nothing is going on, she only wants me? My real query is why tell me that if nothing is going on? Is this early warning signs of a replacement for me being lined up? She wanted to let me know so I didn't think anything was going on, especially since she met him on a dating site. 2011
740Park Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Have you inquired if she'll let you meet this guy in person? That's always an indicator I'll go by.... She must be comfortable with that or else I'd personally not be okay with the situation...
madjac74 Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 My real query is why tell me that if nothing is going on? Because she said she is good friends with him. Hence you may meet him some day so she was being up front and honest. 1
Author 2011 Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 Because she said she is good friends with him. Hence you may meet him some day so she was being up front and honest. I'm just trying not to let insecurity creep in. She did say she just wanted to let me know so that I didn't get the wrong idea, so maybe one day i will meet him. 2011
abby2 Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Suggest to go with her if she's going to meet him. I don't think is right for her to meet him alone. Even if you can trust her but you can't trust the guy.
Author 2011 Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 Suggest to go with her if she's going to meet him. I don't think is right for her to meet him alone. Even if you can trust her but you can't trust the guy. Said she met him regularly before but was a friend thing?
d0nnivain Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 He's a pre-existing friend. he was in her life before you were. She said she met him on a dating site. Did they go out once or for a while? If they instantly clicked a friends, he can stay. If they have seen each other naked you need to be introduced to this guy sooner rather than later. You have to make sure that no matter what she says about their interactions, you need to see his eyes to make sure he's not carrying a torch for her.
FakeBatman Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Why did my new GF suddenly tell me about a guy she met on dating site a while ago, whom she is good friends with, but there was no chemistry, and meets up with now and again but nothing is going on, she only wants me? My real query is why tell me that if nothing is going on? Is this early warning signs of a replacement for me being lined up? She wanted to let me know so I didn't think anything was going on, especially since she met him on a dating site. 2011 Your missus sounds like she only wants you but made a friend out of the guy from the dating site - problem is that guy wants your girl even though she doesn't want him in that way. If you trust her, trust that she won't be lining u up for a replacement but to be sure you better establish your presence around that guy, make him know that he shouldn't try to go for someone that's already taken.
Author 2011 Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 Your missus sounds like she only wants you but made a friend out of the guy from the dating site - problem is that guy wants your girl even though she doesn't want him in that way. If you trust her, trust that she won't be lining u up for a replacement but to be sure you better establish your presence around that guy, make him know that he shouldn't try to go for someone that's already taken. She has said lots and I mean lots about wanting me, and how I light up her life etc, but after saying this it really cast doubt in my mind. Idk, she said they'd been out drinking a few times and stuff like that, that maybe means they had a few dates and it never worked out Idk, maybe she isn't keen as he seems to know a lot about the subjects she studies at college so is maybe using him to help her. Really don't know. Not sure how I could get to meet him though, she's know right away I'd want to angle him out and was feeling threatened he was going to try and seduce her.
Author 2011 Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 He's a pre-existing friend. he was in her life before you were. She said she met him on a dating site. Did they go out once or for a while? If they instantly clicked a friends, he can stay. If they have seen each other naked you need to be introduced to this guy sooner rather than later. You have to make sure that no matter what she says about their interactions, you need to see his eyes to make sure he's not carrying a torch for her. I don't know if they went out i.e. several dates or whatever, she said nothing clicked and it was just friends.
jjtr Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 How "new" is new when you are referring to your girlfriend? How long ago did she and this guy date?
Author 2011 Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 How "new" is new when you are referring to your girlfriend? How long ago did she and this guy date? About 6 months for us, I think they met about a year ago
Oregon_Dude Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 When I'm in a r/s, I am totally not cool with my GF hanging out with a single guy 1-on-1. It sends an awful message. I had this issue in my last r/s. She clearly needed constant attention, EVEN WHILE she was in a r/s. Needless to say, we are not together anymore (her decision).
Author 2011 Posted September 15, 2015 Author Posted September 15, 2015 Are they 'Friends with benefit' before? No idea only thing I know is what she said and that was there was no chemistry. She was quite clear she wanted me and still makes that clear although I don't know if she says little things to see if I get jealous, some sort of test, maybe too see how much I really care perhaps I don't know. If she mentions guys and I don't question it will she think he doesn't care what I am doing with guys or on the flip side is he too jealous or possessive. She asked if what she told me was ok that she sees this guy now and again and wouldn't if I wasn't happy with it, what can you say to that, it's like a twist, obviously I wouldn't as the guy is probably sniffing about hoping to get his nackers, but on the other hand is it just some friend thing for her Idk and if I said no I'd look controlling.
madjac74 Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 When I'm in a r/s, I am totally not cool with my GF hanging out with a single guy 1-on-1. It sends an awful message. I had this issue in my last r/s. She clearly needed constant attention, EVEN WHILE she was in a r/s. Needless to say, we are not together anymore (her decision). Not a surprise. Insecurity is not very attractive
Oregon_Dude Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Not a surprise. Insecurity is not very attractiveEh, whatever. When she considered the tables turned - me, meeting up with a chick one-on-one - she acknowledged that she wouldn't have appreciated that, either. I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels this way. In either case, maybe I'll be "chiller" in my next r/s - it wouldn't have saved this one, anyway.
madjac74 Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 I think if the situation is that your SO has these opposite sex friends and they are sort of keeping them separate from your relationship, then I can understand some concern. I have a best friend who is opposite sex and I could not wait for her to meet my GF. i think that helped a lot for them to meet
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