He said he didn't fall in love with me, now he won't leave me alone?

[seeingthisguy]

I dated this guy for 6 months, and at the 6 month mark, he became really distant. I told him we should go back to being friends because I didn't like feeling like he didn't want to be around me, or like he was avoiding the "exclusive relationship" talk. He then told me the reason he'd been "distant" is because he didn't fall in love with me. So I said no hard feelings, let's just be friends. Naturally, I took a month to myself not to talk to him - I just needed some time to stop feeling something for him. My problem when we were "dating" was that he was distant - now, after saying he didn't fall in love with me, a month later, he won't leave me alone! He texts me, sent me a "miss you" message, and is commenting all over my Facebook page. WTF?? And on top of that, I'm pretty sure he started seeing someone else (hence the distance). Thoughts?

Edited September 14, 2015 by seeingthisguy

[warshaw]

Some people want what they can't have.

 

Once he gets you back he'll revert back to the way he was before.

 

He's a shallow guy with inappropriate relationship skills, he's selfish, and he just doesn't have a clue as to what it's like to be in a mature committed relationship with a girl who does know how to express her love and feelings.

[GlisteningGlue]

Guess the grass wasn't greener..

 

I don't why people would even give any thought to these boomerang acts being any sort of genunine or like they've "realized" that they do love/value you after time apart instead of time spent together actually forming a bond. People only move on with time at their own pace, these new emotions that seem to spring up are just them reacting to something that happened in their own life to make them grab the closest thing for comfort again i.e you.

[Popsicle]

I don't know how he expects you to recover from "I didn't fall in love with you"....

[seeingthisguy]

I don't know how he expects you to recover from "I didn't fall in love with you"....

 

RIGHT? Like what the actual f***! Honestly, hearing that was like taking a bullet; I cried for 2 days. I'd never tell him that - I played it off like I didn't care. And worse, I couldn't believe he would sleep with me for 6 months not skipping a beat and then whip that out. Did I mention he said that in a text?

 

How on earth does one say something like that and think they can change their mind? So what, now that you've told me you didn't fall in love with me, you think we can try again???

[Popsicle]

RIGHT? Like what the actual f***! Honestly, hearing that was like taking a bullet; I cried for 2 days. I'd never tell him that - I played it off like I didn't care. And worse, I couldn't believe he would sleep with me for 6 months not skipping a beat and then whip that out. Did I mention he said that in a text?

 

How on earth does one say something like that and think they can change their mind? So what, now that you've told me you didn't fall in love with me, you think we can try again???

 

I hear you, girlfriend.

[aussietigerwolf]

Sounds just like an ex of mine who even after proving he only wanted me if he couldnt have me, then proceeded to message me through my artist page (I had blocked him on my personal one) to try and get back into my pants at least even though he was married with kids!!!. I blocked him there too.

 

RIGHT? Like what the actual f***! Honestly, hearing that was like taking a bullet; I cried for 2 days. I'd never tell him that - I played it off like I didn't care. And worse, I couldn't believe he would sleep with me for 6 months not skipping a beat and then whip that out. Did I mention he said that in a text?

 

How on earth does one say something like that and think they can change their mind? So what, now that you've told me you didn't fall in love with me, you think we can try again???