Tippy123 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 In short my girlfriend broke up with me after 6 years, almost two weeks ago now. We have been in contact everyday because I am in the process of moving out and she is about to move out as well (to another state). What confuses me is every time I go over there she asks about me and my family. She is always texting me smiley faces and telling me to have a good day and thanking me for things. Mostly she has been very friendly around me. However the past few days, as it gets closer to her moving away she has been kind of cold with me. Asking me to come get the rest of my stuff, but when I took something on accident, texted me angry that she hadn't gone through that stuff yet (when she told me she was taking it to the goodwill) I was trying to be nice because I was already going there. I hadn't taken it yet, so she asked if I could come drop it off. When I got there she was in my old t shirt I left her and looked pretty awful and exhausted, which again is not normal. She wouldn't EVEN look at me, which is abnormal even after our breakup, but she still wished me a good day before I left, while looking at the ground. I'm struggling to figure out why all this odd behavior all of a sudden. I also found some brochures in the mail for a school here instead of where she is going and ads for a housing unit here. Which hurts because she wouldn't even consider it while we were together. Maybe she is panicking, I don't know, but I'm having a hard time because I feel like she hates me all of a sudden. She's also made this new friend here recently that's she's been hanging out with everydl day and the worst person in me wants to believe that, that is why she wants to stay now. Like she has found someone new. I haven't done anything but respect her space (she dumped me). I've only contacted her when necessary because of the move. Yes I want her back, but I have accepted that it isn't what she wants. I'm having a very hard time with this and don't know what to do. It's like one week we were madly in love, on a super fun summer trip, and the next week right before she jets off, she breaks up with me. I feel like there is something there still, I just don't know how to act around her. One minute she is texting me like a friend and the next she is being rude and cold to me. She wants to know about my family and what I'm up to, but won't tell me anything she does. Should I cut off contact or what? I want to hope that there is a future but now I am realizing she may really not have feelings for me. I'm so confused and deeply hurt over the whole thing. I have to see her one more time before she goes on Tuesday to clean up the house. How am I supposed to act? I am still in love with her.
lolablue17 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 She may act like that, for lots of reasons. But you shouldn't connect yourself to her private rollercoaster. Detach yourself from her as soon as possible and let her have her ups and downs by herself. Go NC, and stop trying to be too nice. Stop answering her texts. Let her realise that a "break up" has consequences - She doesn't have you anymore.
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