Samuel_22 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Hi everyone... This is another madness, 33 days have passed since the last contact...I don't know why this happening to me, this the 4th recurrence of anger in the last month, I feel this is getting worse and worse and more frequent.. at the beginning I enjoyed being angry (at least it felt better than feeling like an emotional mess) but this time, it feels I am really really pissed off...I keep remembering things she told me, things she did, and I can't take it anymore.. I was coming back home from work and I was ready to attack anyone on the street...all I needed was a slight stimulus... I know tomorrow, I am gonna feel better, but I am really afraid of the next time, this **** comes around...do you think I need to seek help from a professional? I am generally a calm person, even in the worst situation I have been through, sometimes people question me and say why are you so calm? now post break up this is getting out of control I think The smartest thing I did was to delete my ex's phone number in the morning, when I felt there was something wrong with me
d0nnivain Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Anger is simply one of the stages of grief. You are moving through the process & making progress. 1
Author Samuel_22 Posted September 13, 2015 Author Posted September 13, 2015 Anger is simply one of the stages of grief. You are moving through the process & making progress. If next time it is like what is today, I can somehow control it, but what I am afraid of is that, this time, it was worse than the past, I mean I had never experienced anything like it throughout my life...that is why I am not sure if I have to seek medical help or not
K2z Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Have a chat with a local therapist. Medicine may not be necessary but talk never hurts. There are also online talk therapy options. 1
ScienceGal Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Healing is not linear. Cut yourself some slack. 33 days is not very long. Believe it or not, anger is a good thing. Embrace it. 1
dumbass2 Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 Anger is a good thing and part of the process. It is still very early on. I got angry at times and actually threw a couple of things at work. Ok though, because no one was around and it's my business.lol I started going to the gym and working out. It helped a lot. Got out aggression when I needed to. I did feel like you though, where I thought that one more thing and I'm gonna go off on someone. You have to control it because you don't want to do anything you'll regret. You definitely do not want to contact her or make it so she can contact you right now. It's tough, but stay away from her. Talk with friends or see a therapist if you feel you can't control it any more. It is normal what you are going through. 1
bluefeather Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 anger is ok. rage is dangerous. there's a difference. if you seriously think you might attack somebody, I would suggest seeking some kind of help, whether it is therapy, talking to a friend, or maybe even finding an outlet. go to a gym or maybe use a punching bag. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 (edited) Hi OP, sorry to hear that you're still struggling so much. I recall a previous thread (looks like it might have been deleted) in which you expressed quite a lot of rage, off-handedly (?) saying that you will kill your ex along with a string of expletives. Now in this post you are are expressing concern that you're so angry you feel like attacking someone. I reference this not to chastise you but to agree that your level of anger indicates professional support would be a wise idea. You need a way to channel all that pent-up hostility and rage, beyond posting here. The first step was doing what you've done already - acknowledging that you are extremely upset, more than what you know how to manage. I would strongly advise you to follow your instinct and get in contact with a professional who can help you sort through all these negative feelings. Edited September 14, 2015 by ExpatInItaly 1
StellaGrace Posted September 14, 2015 Posted September 14, 2015 yes, find a psychologist or psychotherapist. from what you write, it sounds like you aren't in control of your rage and you are ready to lash out at anyone the next time it strikes. so find a degreed professional to talk to before you do something you will regret. 1
Author Samuel_22 Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 yes, find a psychologist or psychotherapist. from what you write, it sounds like you aren't in control of your rage and you are ready to lash out at anyone the next time it strikes. so find a degreed professional to talk to before you do something you will regret. Thank you all for your time, I am really happy I am a part of this community, last night I went to a park at 3:00 AM and cried as much as I could...today I feel calm, really really calm...like someone who buried a loved one, and has cried oceans...I let it out last night...all of it.... I have made an appointment with a psychologist (he has this privilege to prescribe medications) I will see what he has to say Thank you all again 1
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