Lovelife89 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 In an effort to move on and hopefully speed up my recovery I joined an online dating site. Well guess who popped into my quick match? Yep the separated guy I just went NC with one month ago. I did not message him or break NC, I swiped it away as a pass. He was a high match for me, so I'm sure, no I'm positive, I showed up for him too. Our city is not that big so it was bound to happen. I decided that I was not getting off the site, I want to move on too and meet new people. My curiosity got the better of me a couple hours later and I went to go see his profile. He completely deleted it. I wanted to make sure he just didn't just block me or hide from me so I went a different route and he did in fact delete it. I don't get why he would do that? He can be on there and date if he wants to, it's a free world. He knows I'm not gonna message him after all I ended things and initiated NC and blocked him. I feel dumb because I feel a little hurt by it, like he hates me or never wanted to see my face again type of thing... I don't know...has this happened or something similar to anyone else?
nescafe1982 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Don't overthink this one. Just shrug and move on. Trying to figure this out will do nothing to help you. I know you didn't ask about this, but I might add: maybe jumping right back into dating/relationships isn't the best way to recover from a bad experience? If you're not in the right head-space, you could harm yourself (or others) by jumping back in before you've processed the breakup a bit. 3
craw Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Don't overthink this one. Just shrug and move on. Trying to figure this out will do nothing to help you. I know you didn't ask about this, but I might add: maybe jumping right back into dating/relationships isn't the best way to recover from a bad experience? If you're not in the right head-space, you could harm yourself (or others) by jumping back in before you've processed the breakup a bit. Great advice. So true. Didn't even occur to me to take time and space before meeting someone else. Until it became very real that I was about to meet someone and got this awful sinking feeling in my stomach. So weird to start all over again, esp that I want to make decent friends and its just so hard to find. 1
nescafe1982 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Everyone has their preferred way of recovering after a break up. But my philosophy is, what's the hurry? Process the pain before repeating the process. There is always time. 1
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