grokcahsevol Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Not sure whats up, I mean it's only 2 month NC but I have been doing pretty good, going out having fun, meeting new people, random hookups - nothing sexual though, growing my business, gym, finishing my one class for my associates and so forth. BUT in the past 3 days I have had the most realistic dreams about us getting back together and that she was so confused about her sexuality, how shes been thinking about me every day and didn't want to ruin our 9 years together. Last nights dream though, she pleaded to me and I told her, I enjoy being single and I don't think it's best we get back together. what do these dreams mean? I wake up and feel like $hit for about an hour then I'm able to move on. I have absolutely zero intentions on reaching out to her. thanks LS
realmly Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 I'm also 2 months NC. And for the past month, I've been dreaming about him every night - but I know this is because I'm constantly thinking about him/analyzing things. I don't think the dreams mean much, the dreams just reflect what your conscious or subconscious mind is thinking about. I understand how you feel though. Realizing that the only time you're now going to see this person is only in your dreams is quite painful and does make you feel empty upon waking up. I hope it gets better for you.
Author grokcahsevol Posted September 13, 2015 Author Posted September 13, 2015 I'm also 2 months NC. And for the past month, I've been dreaming about him every night - but I know this is because I'm constantly thinking about him/analyzing things. I don't think the dreams mean much, the dreams just reflect what your conscious or subconscious mind is thinking about. I understand how you feel though. Realizing that the only time you're now going to see this person is only in your dreams is quite painful and does make you feel empty upon waking up. I hope it gets better for you. My thing is I don't even think about her, but I believe you are right it's all in the subconscious mind. I hope everything gets better for your self as well. How long were you both together for?
dyna85 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Well...sometimes I interpret dreams at face value and then other times I figure out the underlying feeling and what message they're trying to convey. You're definitely releasing a lot of stress through your rem sleep in dreaming so this is a good thing, even though it's hard upon awakening. I know I had more dreams earlier on in the NC process and I'm now months out and had one a few wks ago that really threw me and messed up my day, so I know how it can be, but it's truly beneficial to seek out the meaning based on how it makes you feel and your interpretation of it is the best there is. I'm curious, do you feel like you aren't interested in getting back together? If she came back right now, what would you do? Sounds like this dream could be a representation of your exact feelings. No? One time I dreamt that my ex from way back got married and I was in the car with his brother who was also married. I remember feeling rather annoyed with the whole scenario. This was several years after the breakup. Anyway, fast forward a few yrs and I looked up my ex online and found out both he and his brother were married. I've definitely had a few dreams about the current guy I'm getting over and I feel they definitely are a true representation of the actual situation and feelings involved.
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