How do you deal with this type?

[sam96]

Unfortunately, I think i'm into a girl like this. A short summary of her:

 

I met her at work, she only works about once a week and I rarely even get the opportunity to talk to her, becuase it's in a restaurant business which is very stressfull. We went to the same school together, but only saw eachother and never spoke to eachother. The first time we met at work we recognized eachother and introduced ourselves. We've had about 5 conversations totally, one each week of course. They all lasted a couple of minutes before my boss or some employee came and ruined the moment.

 

She is very beautiful, a solid 10 if not a 11. Every single man that meets her stares at her and every single man thinks she's hot. However she herself is extremely insecure, considers herself ugly with a shallow personality. However despite her insecurity, she's smart. Extremely smart.

 

The few times we talked, everything about her was seductive, her body language, the eye contact which she held longer than any woman i've ever met, and they way she responded. After talknig to her about different things she responded with like one or two words while maintaining her eye contact seeming very curious. Obviously I knew she was interessted in me.

 

When I look at her twitter, she only retweets quite harsh and depressing tweets, such as: '' I can't wait to forget your face forever'', ''I hope you're suffering right now'' or tweets criticizing fake friends, rude people, rapists and such. She also listens to such categories of music in the hip hop categories, the first time I saw her, I would never guess that she listens to such music.

 

After studying those things about her, I talked to such subjects about her in a discrete/indirect way and she seemed very interested and curious and found me interesting.

 

Last friday, after work, I proposed that we should take a walk and talk, and she agreed. Just before the moment I was getting dressed, she was already outside and said she was late to her buss and told me we should do it another time. It's hard to contact her too, as I didn't ask for her number before, and her facebook seemed very empty, no profile picture, no news feed nothing, just 400 friends. But I send a request anyway.

 

One day later, I met her at a super market where she was working, which I had no idea about. I told her that I had added her on facebook because we had discussed earlier that I should send her a picture. Like all other times we talked, same thing. Eye contact, very seductive and seemingly interested. After she had accepted the friend request, I wrote to her. It took 2 days until she responded.

 

I started of by asking her about work and stuff, same thing one or two word answers. Then I changed the subject, trying to found out what has really caused her to be like this, trying to get her to talk about the tragedy that has happened to her. Obviously I didn't ask her directly. I said, you remind me of myself a couple of years ago, purposeful. I went on by writing that a disappointment, tragedy made me purposeful and cold (hoping she would talk about herself). But no, nothing. She responded with: ''Oh really?''

 

Probably the strangest woman i've ever met, we're both pretty young too. Im 18, she's 17.

 

Very mysterious girl, she probably acts like this to most men, making them interested in her, then as they are about to make the next move, she dissapears. Shes constatly after different stimulis as the article says. I'm pretty sure that she has had a tragic past, whether is a man that has treated her badly, group of friends anything. Maybe she's after revenge by doing this to men. I don't know. How am I supposed to proceed with this? I think about her all the time. Should I meet her again in the future and talk to her or just stay away from such a person

[Siquijor]

Perhaps she's scared of a relationship due to an event in her past. Probably best staying friends.

[ExpatInItaly]

For whatever reason, she isn't ready to open up and take a friendship further. I know you have no negative intentions, but you don't really know her well enough to be asking about her past. At this point, it's not your business. I would step back for a while and see if she reaches out to you.

 

And just a thought, but if she has that many FB friends yet you can't see a profile picture or news feed, I wonder if perhaps she's put you on restricted settings meaning that you can't see her public profile in its entirety. That might not be accurate, but I'd have to wonder. Maybe she isn't exactly single and doesn't want you to see photos of her with a boyfriend or something. I could be totally wrong. But in any event, her slow response time and rather evasive communication indicates she's not prepared to be more than friends right now.