Author DirtyBerty Posted September 17, 2015 Author Posted September 17, 2015 Just to update you all. I'm giving her the letter today. I know it's probably wrong and I know the waiting for a response is going to nearly kill me, but I feel like this is something I have to do. I'm trying to prepare for the answer to be no. Well trying my best anyway. Don't think I can fully prepare or know how I'll react. If this goes bad and she says no I'm going to aim for 30 days NC and take it from there. Hoping to get closure by doing this. Even though I wasn't happy in the relationship it still hurts and feels like a massive loss. This letter idea floating about for a week has given me some temporary relief but I need to get back on the road to recovery. NC will be hard. I keep checking her Facebook account. It's weird I'm not even really looking at her page. It's more seeing when she was last online. Not sure why I keep checking it but I do. When the letter response comes back as no I'll remove her from Facebook, delete her number and try and move on. Wish me luck
Meli22 Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 Good luck you've got my support on this one. As long as you're prepared for the worst. You'd always regret not sending it to her if you didn't.
drseuss Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 good luck with the letter , but i think alot of the nc timeframes people set are way too short . it should be months like 3-6 months , nobodys can change that much in 30 or 60 days at all , espcialy when the first 30 + they are truly raw about a break up , you change once you have worked through the emotions and then when you are seeing clearly you can address issue that need to be fixed to either better your next rs or fix the old one if thats the road you choose to take
Author DirtyBerty Posted September 19, 2015 Author Posted September 19, 2015 Another update. So I have the letter on Thursday and heard nothing from her. I mentioned in the letter to have a think for a few days and read it a few times. So I wasn't expecting to hear back straight away. However last night I noticed she's blocked me on what's app. So I'm guessing that's her answer. Not sure why she couldn't have just said no and sorry in a text message but think that was her answer there. So now it's time to move on. I need to try the NC for at least 60 days I think. Will be hard but I have to try.
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