disbelief Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 hey everyone. so my ex broke it off with me about 1.5 months ago after 3.5 years because she lost attraction for me basically , although she would never admit this fact. she just says she needs to be alone to find herself and all that crap. on top of all this we have a 2.5 yr old son which now has to go back and forth - he hates it and so do I. still cant understand how shes just fine with all this crap. anyway so after 1.5 months of being broken up we are talking more and even hanging out, im getting mixed signals and she even went on to say how she loves me but she felt like i didnt really love her, this is also complete BS. so then i went on to tell her how much i love her and all the little details etc. I think she just wanted to hear it to make herself comfortable again. so after i told her how much i love her and care she got quite again and contact has dropped off again. now 2 days after no contact and me giving her the vibe like im moving on she starts posting relationship sappy stuff on her social media. its totally up and down and its hard for me to not contact becuase im in so much pain and love her. its like when she thinks i love her shes like "meh" but when my feelings are unclear she starts throwing mixed signals out there. i really want her but damn she is so all over the place, i just want consistency. are there any woman out there that you don't have to play mind games with all the time?
EO422 Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 I am not an expert..but I do know that when it comes to kids, you should look out what is best for them..I could be wrong..I don't have kids.. But I think you need to stop trying to guess what is right for you and her, and just think what is right for you and your son. It's not all about you now, you have a child, unconditioned to this world. You don't want to bring him up showing an unhealthy relationship, and unhealthy ways to deal with different stresses. If you really need to figure this out, keep him out of this as much as possible. I know he is 2.5...not ire how much a 2 nd a half year old knows or understands..but it seems to be concerning you. So just do your best to keep him away from all of this. Do not show sadness around him, keep him up and happy. Play with him, take him out to an arcade etc...
Author disbelief Posted September 12, 2015 Author Posted September 12, 2015 That is true but I think our son would do alot better in his real family. I think we should be working on it. I don't get how she can just write it off like it's really not that big of a deal.
TunaCat Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 No, your son would do a lot better with two parents who are able to co-parent effectively. You need to keep your son out of this mess and focus 100% on him. He needs consistency and right now, you guys are not together and right now she is showing inconsistency when it comes to how she feels about you. Toddlers pick up on more stuff than you even realize.
Author disbelief Posted September 13, 2015 Author Posted September 13, 2015 No, your son would do a lot better with two parents who are able to co-parent effectively. You need to keep your son out of this mess and focus 100% on him. He needs consistency and right now, you guys are not together and right now she is showing inconsistency when it comes to how she feels about you. Toddlers pick up on more stuff than you even realize. yes i know , he is very astute. pisses me off that he even has to go threw this crap. when she got pregnant she was so sure that she wanted me forever and blah blah blah. 3 years later shes "not sure". so much for working on relationships - and the kid? ya hell be fine she says.
dumbass2 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Just stay focused on what you have to do for the child. DO NOT worry about her. It will cause problems with how how you deal with the child. It's over, at least for now. Maybe way down the road you two can work out your feelings, but not now, not this soon. Keep it about the child and stop with the social media.
Author disbelief Posted September 13, 2015 Author Posted September 13, 2015 Just stay focused on what you have to do for the child. DO NOT worry about her. It will cause problems with how how you deal with the child. It's over, at least for now. Maybe way down the road you two can work out your feelings, but not now, not this soon. Keep it about the child and stop with the social media. thanks for the reply , i hear ya. just so hard when im emotionally attached to the family we had. im one of thoes nice guys that would be faithful and fight for his family to the bitter end. guess nice guys really do finish last. at least i got a beautiful son out of all this, he will be my #1
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