BloodyMary84 Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 Hi! I am a 31 year old female. I work in a big company for 3 years now. That guy at work seems really into me: looks at me, nodes, smiles, says hi. He is doing that for a few (1-3) months now. I don't know him, but he seemed to insist so much that i ended up being interested as well. He is a bit older (ealry 40s), seems very polite, very nice. Not particularly good looking at the start but amazing eyes that brighten up when we see each other...and the more i looked at him, the more he seemed hot We had 1-2 weeks where we actually started smiling and waving to each other, and saying hi. I was responding and was looking forward to see him each morning. He almost came to talk to me but a friend showed up out of nowehere and he turned around. That was obvious. He seems very busy, and I only saw him rarely lately, no occasion to go and talk to him. Yesterday i learned that he got propmoted to another city, About 5 hours drive from here. I probaly won t see him again, for a long time... I am under the impression that we missed something here, I don t know anything about him. He never told me his name, but i did my search and i know it now. Should i send him a small message on linkedin? Should i go to his colleagues (the cooler younger ones that are my age) and ask them where he disapeared? (they don't know me) As i said, i don t know anything about him, maybe he is a married + kids jerk who flirts around...??? But i keep thinking about him... What would you do?
highseas Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 I was going to suggest breaking the ice and initiating a conversation... But he got promoted and now is 5 hours away. I think you have missed a possible connection. I probably wouldn't reach out now. You're so far apart I don't know what can be done about it when you did not even have a conversation with him.
carhill Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 What would you do? These days probably nothing but, respecting a desire for an action answer, I'd likely do an on-site contact with colleagues who knew him with an innocent question or two, like 'Wow, xxx disappeared overnight. I heard he was promoted and moved to another city. That must've been tough for his family". Then listen. As a woman, if the colleagues are men, they'll like start coughing up all kinds of details while smiling and flirting a bit because, well, you're a woman. Use it. Welcome to LS
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