Jw2015 Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 I know every couple is different, however: How long do you/ should you date someone before getting engaged? Specifically for a guy in his late 20s and a girl in her mid 20s? For the women, how long do you/ would you stay with someone until he proposes to you? Would you give him an ultimatum? Even if a subtle one, thoughts?
J21 Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 Ultimatums have no place in healthy relationships. If you really think you need to give him one to stay with you, you're probably not sure if he even loves you. If he doesn't, then why would you even want to marry the guy? Rushing into something as important as marriage, and pretty much forcing it on him by putting an ultimatum is a receipt for regrets and unhappiness. 1
anduina Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 I'm 27 and in no hurry to get married. If it ever came down to an ultimatum, it's likely that the guy either doesn't share my relationship pace, see me as wife material or believe in marriage. This would mean that we're not compatible.
Vintage79 Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 Give him an ultimatum if you want him to leave you. If it's to the point where you are thinking about an ultimatum, you should just propose to him...
Author Jw2015 Posted September 12, 2015 Author Posted September 12, 2015 Thank you ladies for your response, however Just for the record I'm a guy asking.... More curious about the dating time, and how long a women is willing to wait. Ty
anduina Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 Can't speak for other women but I have no schedule.
Ami1uwant Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 Ultimatums do come up if it's gone on too long without leading to engagement. Another factor is how much time are you together...it's a big difference if you only see each other on one day a week then talk other times vs spending 5 out of 7 days together and one regularly overnights at the others home. If it's the latter then 12-18 months. If it's the former it could be longer.
Hopeful30 Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 However long until it feels right. I know couples who got engaged after only two weeks, and have been married 20 something years and still going strong. I know couples who got engaged after 6 years of dating, divorced 6 months later. 1
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