ThisisIt606 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 I invitedthe guy i've been dating ( a little over 3 months and we're exclusive) to pub trivia with one of my friends. I told him I was going with my friend "J" to pub trivia and asked if he wanted to come, telling him it will be fun. He agreed and since trivia starts fairly late (between when we get out of work and trivia time) I told him he can come to my place and then we can head to trivia together. We haven't met each other's friends or family yet. He only met 2 of my co-corkwers who decided to "crash" one of my early dates with him with their own dates, but it was just a brief "hello/how are you" and then getting our own tables. I want him to meet one of my close friends to start introducing him to people in my life, take things to a higher level. He usually pays for things, and paid for our last dinner. I paid for a comedy show before that, which is the event I suggested to do. Is there a certain etiquette for who pays (me or him) when out with a friend for the first time? We will prob. get drinks and dinner. I don't mind paying for him. However I don't want him to feel like he has to foot the bill for me *and* my friend bc I asked him to hang out with us. Maybe he will want to "impress us" or feel like he has to buy paying. I also read somewhere that it "emasculates" a guy if the girl pays for him and herself infront of her friend(s). Seems a bit odd to me, but just wondering what people think is best as far as who pays?
La.Primavera Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 I think it is polite to offer to pay if you made the invitation. If he has an issue with that he will most likely tell you he will take care of the bill. If that is the case, let him because he obviously cares about that sort of thing. Just anticipate that you will be paying so you aren't all sitting around the table looking at the bill in silence.. Awkward! 2
fitnessfan365 Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 I don't know what the etiquette in this situation is. For what it's worth though, my GF invited me out to dinner twice to meet friends of hers and she paid both times. I pay for a good portion of our dating expenses (at least 70%). But it was her invitation and I'm not dating her friends so I was fine with letting her treat in those cases. Personally, I've always thought it was BS when a woman invites her friend along on a date, and then expects the guy to pay for both of them. 1
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