EO422 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Well this girl in class hit it off with me..we both talked and all that..she hasn't pulled away or showed that she had a BF or wasn't interested. But when I was in the parking lot I saw her by a guy's car with a guy..now I didn't really look to see what was going on. I didn't wanna be mosey and don't care too much if she has a BF...but I see her as potential and I do NOT wanna make further advancement of she has a BF...just to keep it from being awkward in class..she sits next to me so
PaperCrane Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Ask? A simple direct question takes away all awkwardness. "Hey, do you have a boyfriend?" If yes "Oh cool, [insert small talk]" and then distance yourself. If no "Really? Well are you busy on [insert date] because I wanted to take you to [insert fun thing here]." Or somesuch but with a little more charm on #2. I can't be arsed to come up with anything better at the moment
Author EO422 Posted September 11, 2015 Author Posted September 11, 2015 I guess I click just ask directly! I just thought that was a little bit weird...lol It's weird...like she came into class and sat down and talked to me. I pushed a little bit to talk to her and all that. Then the second class, I thought she had a BF because I saw her with that guy...so I kid of distanced myself a bit but the. She basically started conversation right away! I hope she doesn't have a BF...because if she does and she is looking for a different potential partner I won't deal with that. I think my ex started talking to someone else and left me for them..and I DO MOT wanna be that guy...and I would NOT respect that girl for doing that to her BF then. It would be a huge turn off
Blanco Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Based on your other thread, I think you are still way, way too hurt and angry to even think about dating someone right now. Not saying you need to sit in a room by yourself for six months, but the despair and vitriol you expressed in that thread regarding your very recent ex shows that you aren't in any condition to be trying to build something with someone new. I mean, look at the last sentence of your last post. You're already projecting your ex's behavior onto this girl who you barely even know. 1
Diezel Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 "Do you have a boyfriend?" It's almost like people want to invent the airplane sometimes. 3
Author EO422 Posted September 11, 2015 Author Posted September 11, 2015 Based on your other thread, I think you are still way, way too hurt and angry to even think about dating someone right now. Not saying you need to sit in a room by yourself for six months, but the despair and vitriol you expressed in that thread regarding your very recent ex shows that you aren't in any condition to be trying to build something with someone new. I mean, look at the last sentence of your last post. You're already projecting your ex's behavior onto this girl who you barely even know. Yes I know! But she is potential! I wasn't going to date her yet..I have a whole semester left with this girl. I don't want to put time and effort wasted into building a friendship and hoping for something! I'd rather just stay away if she has a BF
Blanco Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Then just chat her up regularly before or after class. If she is seeing someone, she'll mostly likely mention it in passing if you two have enough conversations. And honestly, I think in your condition, it might be better if she DOES have a boyfriend. That way, you can just talk to her like a person without any expectations, but because she's a girl and you're attracted to her, your confidence will likely still be boosted by this. And really, by the sounds of it, maybe that's a better goal right now versus trying to scour for a new partner so soon. 1
Author EO422 Posted September 11, 2015 Author Posted September 11, 2015 Then just chat her up regularly before or after class. If she is seeing someone, she'll mostly likely mention it in passing if you two have enough conversations. And honestly, I think in your condition, it might be better if she DOES have a boyfriend. That way, you can just talk to her like a person without any expectations, but because she's a girl and you're attracted to her, your confidence will likely still be boosted by this. And really, by the sounds of it, maybe that's a better goal right now versus trying to scour for a new partner so soon. True. I like that idea. I'll just stick with that then. See how I heal. I also want ex to come back. So it will be easier if my ex does come back..I wouldn't have anything to worry about with new girl
d0nnivain Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 You can say "Hey I saw you in the parking lot talking to some guy. Is he your BF?" Really stop making this harder than it has to be.
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