Author GilesB Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 We didn't meet up on Thursday because my friends boyfriend was ill. I didn't mention it but neither did he. Anyway I texted him this morning saying 'hey. Do you want to do something this week?' He replied 'I love lazy Sunday's . I'm not sure if I'm going to be free because one of my colleagues is hospitalised, bless him.' I got upset by this but took a breath and replied 'oh no, sorry to hear that. So many people I know are in hospital at the moment. I understand, work must be manic.' I don't know what to think now. Is he blowing me off or trying to get me to react?!? I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because he may be real. I just don't know what to do so I'm going to leave it at that and give him the space he needs and let him come to me. I don't think I can do anymore. I havent been great with him the past few days because I've been focusing on my granny and sister. I text him the other day and he replied but I didn't see it until the next day as my watsapp is playing up. He didn't ask a question but I remained calm anyway. I played tennis with my friend who was a guy because I needed someone to talk to. I told my guy about how I enjoyed thrashing him and he read the message but didn't reply. I don't know if that's why he is maybe off with me but I'm not going to stop seeing my friends. I'm just trying to stay busy.
Gaeta Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 We didn't meet up on Thursday because my friends boyfriend was ill. I didn't mention it but neither did he. Giles: Why didn't you meet up with your boyfriend????????????? Who cares if your friend's boyfriend is sick !!! Your boyfriend had reserved his time to spend it with you and you cancelled him because your friend's boyfriend was sick????? Why didn't you get together him and you alone???? You were both free !!!!!
Gaeta Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 Why didn't you tell your boyfriend ' my friend cancelled her boyfriend is sick, would you like to come over my place instead ' ??
Gaeta Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 I text him the other day and he replied but I didn't see it until the next day as my watsapp is playing up. I don't beleive you anymore. You mean you texted him and did not look at your watsapp for 24 hours? how about your other contacts, your other friends, your family on watsapp, you never looked if you had messages? I don't buy it I told my guy about how I enjoyed thrashing him and he read the message but didn't reply. I don't know if that's why he is maybe off with me but I'm not going to stop seeing my friends. I'm just trying to stay busy. You cancelled plans with your boyfriend for trivial reasons, you don't answer his text for 24 hours, and when you do you tell him you've been spending time with friends. You don't want a boyfriend. You just want this guy to run after you and be there when you feel like having some support or what ever else.
Author GilesB Posted September 20, 2015 Author Posted September 20, 2015 Oh no sorry I didn't make it clear. He never said he was free on Thursday and before I asked him officially my friend got back to me and said she couldn't to Thursday. I didn't mention meeting up because he never got back to me so I guessed he was busy... This is the situation now!! I am totally interested in him. It's him who I feel isn't interested in me because every time I offer to do something he is busy with work which I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. Sorry I'm not very good at writing it right. His exact words to me where that he wasn't sure if he would definitely be free to meet next week which is when I said I understand that work must be manic for him. I don't want to keep asking him so I leave him to come to me
katiegrl Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 Oh no sorry I didn't make it clear. He never said he was free on Thursday and before I asked him officially my friend got back to me and said she couldn't to Thursday. I didn't mention meeting up because he never got back to me so I guessed he was busy... This is the situation now!! I am totally interested in him. It's him who I feel isn't interested in me because every time I offer to do something he is busy with work which I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. Sorry I'm not very good at writing it right. His exact words to me where that he wasn't sure if he would definitely be free to meet next week which is when I said I understand that work must be manic for him. I don't want to keep asking him so I leave him to come to me He isn't free at all next week? Or "not sure"? And what about Friday night and last night? So you have not seen him in what, like a month now? Since during and after his return from his trip? Hard to know for sure, but based on everything you have posted, my best guess is HE thinks you are (have been) *playing* him....stringing him along ....and now HE is following suit. It's a game to him now ...he is done. Just move on, he has lost interest, it's over. Let it go.
Gaeta Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 I don't understand that you 2 are boyfriend-girlfriend but don't make time to be together.
Redhead14 Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 This is so tangled now. We couldn't help you figure things out now If we had to . Best course of action . . . Never reach out to him again. If he contacts you, you decide then what's what for you. Hopefully, new guy will distract you enough from this one and it will be a no brainer anyway
katiegrl Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 This is so tangled now. We couldn't help you figure things out now If we had to . Best course of action . . . Never reach out to him again. If he contacts you, you decide then what's what for you. Hopefully, new guy will distract you enough from this one and it will be a no brainer anyway What new guy? Giles, you have a new guy? Tennis guy? I thought he was just a friend. I'm so lost...lol
Redhead14 Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 What new guy? Giles, you have a new guy? Tennis guy? I thought he was just a friend. I'm so lost...lol I mean, find a new guy . . .
ExpatInItaly Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 At this point, it does sound like he's losing interest. Sorry, OP.
Maharishi Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 are you fearing he shagged somebody else on vacation?
pidgeon1010 Posted September 20, 2015 Posted September 20, 2015 I would lose interest too. Reading this chain was totally exhausting. She did very little to show she was truly interested. Everything was about her: help me fix my drawers, my sister may be sick, call me, I am feeling down, call me. Did she ever invite him to dinner? NOPE. This guy initiated for 2 months and all he got was a tepid invitation to hang during the week. It's over. If he came back, she would be very lucky.
Zippy2000 Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 He replied 'I love lazy Sunday's . I'm not sure if I'm going to be free because one of my colleagues is hospitalised, bless him.' Its a blow off! This is nothing but a generalised excuse. First of all he said "IM NOT SURE IF IM GOING TO BE FREE"! What? Are you doing a bedside vigil. For who? Not a close member, not a close friend but a ONE OF HIS COLLEAGUES! So you are not priority then? AND there is no such thing a hospital visiting hours? My Gawd man! Such a liar! 1
Gaeta Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 I would lose interest too. Reading this chain was totally exhausting. She did very little to show she was truly interested. Everything was about her: help me fix my drawers, my sister may be sick, call me, I am feeling down, call me. Did she ever invite him to dinner? NOPE. This guy initiated for 2 months and all he got was a tepid invitation to hang during the week. It's over. If he came back, she would be very lucky. That's also my take on it. He should tell her though that he doesn't want to pursue instead of dragging it.
edgygirl Posted September 21, 2015 Posted September 21, 2015 She seems really confused and inconsistent. I wouldn't be surprised if he got tired of it.
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