Samuel_22 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Jesus I can't believe what I am seeing... They kept telling me about karma, I kept telling people about Karma...but I can't believe it is this real...I was a poor rebound, my girlfriend of 7 months, left me for her ex, a month a go.. but in accordance with my speculations she had reconciled with him much earlier, it was the first time she put forward break up, and changed her mind, which was about 2 and half month ago... Now today, I was enjoying my computer games, everything was going well, when I checked my cellphone and I saw this message. I am going to write down the message here. ''Hi Samuel, I am S*****, how are you? I want to trust you and my sister should not know that I have texted you, her boyfriend has left her again, and she is a mess, she has been crying the whole day, I thought I should contact you and tell you, do you think you can help her?'' Jesus it gotta be a joke...Karma sometimes works this fast? now what should I do here? her sister is only 14 and I don't want to be rude, on the other hand, I don't want to break NC... tell me what to do 1
Nolan 93 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 You do absolutely nothing... Nada....zilch. Why beacuse she left you for an ex, why beacuse you were a mess and she wasn't there. Why return the favor, you we're a rebound once why be her crutch again, just to have the same fate. 3
Author Samuel_22 Posted September 11, 2015 Author Posted September 11, 2015 You do absolutely nothing... Nada....zilch. Why beacuse she left you for an ex, why beacuse you were a mess and she wasn't there. Why return the favor, you we're a rebound once why be her crutch again, just to have the same fate. Should I send this message and say that I can't help? or should I avoid any contact? you are absolutely right, and I have no intentions to go back, not at all.. and before you judge me, I really loved this girl and wanted to marry her, but now...I have lost interest, and no way I am going to go back to her...but I don't know if it is rude not to reply her sister's message, if she had sent the message herself, I knew the answer, but now it's complicated 2
quattrob Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 I think you're overthinking it, either answer her telling her sorry you can't help or don't answer at all.. what's the big deal? Her sister isn't going to think you're rude or whatever and even if she does who cares? She's friggin' 14. 1
Nolan 93 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Just don't say anything that's pretty much it. I'm not judging you haha trust me I've been in your shoes and it wasn't fun in the end. 1
quattrob Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 I would just want to add my birthday was yesterday and my ex predictably sent me a happy birthday wish saying how she didn't want to send me the text during the day because she felt it might affect me but decided to do it at night instead. When I saw that, it was clear to me she was being selfish as always. She wanted to ease her guilt and her text had little to nothing to do with me. If she "genuinely" (as she put it) wish the best for me then she would not have sent me that text even though I told her 6 months ago not to contact me again. She knew it might affect my mood a bit but she still did it. But my point is I didn't think too much about it, I ignored and saw what the true intention was in her text. I didn't think anything of it because it's not worth wasting time over. Same should be said for yours. 2
Author Samuel_22 Posted September 11, 2015 Author Posted September 11, 2015 I think you're overthinking it, either answer her telling her sorry you can't help or don't answer at all.. what's the big deal? Her sister isn't going to think you're rude or whatever and even if she does who cares? She's friggin' 14. Ok...I think you are right... I am not gonna answer...why should I? who cares? really? I am a prick...so what? I don't want her back, so her whole family can think I am a prick...I don't even see them anymore But I can thank the sister twice, she made my day...haha I just want to ask my ex, how sweet is it, when your heart is broken...she left me a month ago with that pain...I am so happy she is going through the same thing...You may think I am so selfish, evil blah blah....but you dunno what I have been through...not even a slightest clue 1
Oregon_Dude Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 By all means, allow a text from a 14 year old girl to disturb your day. 5
Nolan 93 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 I've been in nc for almost a year, and still not fully over but the emotions are different almost to the stage of indifference. Take the full 100% when it comes to you're recovery. 1
bluefeather Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Ok...I think you are right... I am not gonna answer...why should I? who cares? really? I am a prick...so what? I don't want her back, so her whole family can think I am a prick...I don't even see them anymore But I can thank the sister twice, she made my day...haha I just want to ask my ex, how sweet is it, when your heart is broken...she left me a month ago with that pain...I am so happy she is going through the same thing...You may think I am so selfish, evil blah blah....but you dunno what I have been through...not even a slightest clue I am glad that you are feeling good now. Karma is, indeed, a real thing. Even if you might be relishing in this, I still think it is good that you don't contact. I don't think it is selfish, you are just taking care of yourself. So I would just leave it where it is to stay where you are, not responding. Because any kind of reply would/could change that state that you are in right now. 2
stillafool Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Why should you help her when she is over there crying her eyes out about the OM that she left you for? She's still crazy about that guy and he's treating her like s--t! Let her wallow in it. 2
drseuss Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 She hasn't actualy contacted you ,but I say strike while the iron is hot and call her ! Maybe this is me talking wishing I was in your situation but you will regret not trying more than you will trying to salvage But then my mind quickly jumps back to , it's likely to fail soon after you reconile , of you reconile .... 1
frigginlost Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Jeez people! The little girl is 14 years old trying to help her sister, and you are all screaming ignore, ignore, ignore. What kind of crap is that going to instill into a 14 year old's head? OP, if it were me, I would stay waaaaay clear of contacting the ex. As for the 14 year old, I would send a simple "I'm sorry to hear that, but I can't help her". 6
DrReplyInRhymes Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Ok...I think you are right... I am not gonna answer...why should I? who cares? really? I am a prick...so what? I don't want her back, so her whole family can think I am a prick...I don't even see them anymore But I can thank the sister twice, she made my day...haha I just want to ask my ex, how sweet is it, when your heart is broken...she left me a month ago with that pain...I am so happy she is going through the same thing...You may think I am so selfish, evil blah blah....but you dunno what I have been through...not even a slightest clue Although you may feel this is somehow connected to you, It isn't. It's simply coincidence, and your posts resonates with your vindictive attitude! Don't take offense, I'm being very serious here, But that doesn't mean for your ex you should shed a tear. However, think of the situation, and then exclude the fact she's your ex, She just got left by someone for some reason and is distraught with what's next, She's in the same boat as you were, and you remember the pain? Instead of being happy about her being miserable, try changing the game? Personally I wouldn't respond, as it's clear, that chapter of your life is done, But the vindictive attitude isn't 'winning', and it's hardly any fun, It's evidence that you're still hurt, even if you won't admit it out loud, And that's perfectly fine, but it's only temporary relief in the now. I do hope that you heal in the future, I do hope that you eventually see, That you don't have to LIKE the person to still wish them a life without misery, That by silently wishing she'll be ok, that by the goodness in your heart, That she'll get through this much like you will, and with someone else, offer a new start. 1
PaperCrane Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Jeez people! The little girl is 14 years old trying to help her sister, and you are all screaming ignore, ignore, ignore. What kind of crap is that going to instill into a 14 year old's head? OP, if it were me, I would stay waaaaay clear of contacting the ex. As for the 14 year old, I would send a simple "I'm sorry to hear that, but I can't help her". ^^^ This. 2
bluefeather Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 The little girl is 14 years old trying to help her sister, and you are all screaming ignore, ignore, ignore. What kind of crap is that going to instill into a 14 year old's head? Hey, you know what, it is not this person's responsibility to reply to messages of the little sister of his ex gf. He is trying to heal and has no obligation at all to that. What kind of crap is having an older sister who jumps from one partner to another and then back to the other going to instill into her head? Whether or not she gets a text message from this guy will be the least of her problems. Worst case scenario if he doesn't text, she will think he's a jerk. That's not a big deal, calm the **** down. Worst case scenario if he DOES text, she will tell her older sister even though she said she wouldn't, and her older sister will freak out. She already seems emotionally unstable. "WHY THE HELL ARE YOU TEXTING WITH MY LITTLE SISTER YOU FREAK" 5
frigginlost Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Hey, you know what, it is not this person's responsibility to reply to messages of the little sister of his ex gf. He is trying to heal and has no obligation at all to that. There is nothing wrong with being a decent human being. Nothing. We are talking about a 14 year old that is probably freaking out about the state her sister is in trying to do whatever she can to help. What kind of crap is having an older sister who jumps from one partner to another and then back to the other going to instill into her head? Whether or not she gets a text message from this guy will be the least of her problems. And this is the 14 year old's fault, how? She is just looking to help her sister. Worst case scenario if he doesn't text, she will think he's a jerk. That's not a big deal, calm the **** down. No, she will place that in the back of her head that when things go bad for her in the future, she can't reach out. Get it? She's 14. I'm perfectly calm by the way... Worst case scenario if he DOES text, she will tell her older sister even though she said she wouldn't, and her older sister will freak out. She already seems emotionally unstable. "WHY THE HELL ARE YOU TEXTING WITH MY LITTLE SISTER YOU FREAK" And he would ignore that text. Get it? This is not about the ex. It's about the 14 year old. Grasp that. 1
bluefeather Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 This is not about the 14 year old. This is about the person trying to heal himself. GRASP THAT. My object is to help the OP. You want to argue your point, go ahead, but I'll not do the whole "pick apart everything he said and respond to it" forum game. That is a waste of time. I said my opinion. You have yours. I will let others decide what they will of it. 2
Oregon_Dude Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 This thread is hilarious. OP, you should give less of a crap what the ex, ex's little sister, ex's grandma, ex's best friend, ex's dog or ex's third cousin thinks of you. You owe none of them a response. Get on with your life. F*ck all of these people. It's laughable to me that you're even worrying about this or responding to the 'poor, innocent little 14 year old'. 4
frigginlost Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 This is not about the 14 year old. This is about the person trying to heal himself. GRASP THAT. My object is to help the OP. You want to argue your point, go ahead, but I'll not do the whole "pick apart everything he said and respond to it" forum game. That is a waste of time. I said my opinion. You have yours. I will let others decide what they will of it. LOL! And being polite and a decent human being (imho) to a 14 year old is somehow hurting the OP. Whatever dude... Your call, OP. 1
lolablue17 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 You can reply: " Grown up things are for grown ups. Thank you very much for your text, but I think that you should let your sister to manage her business by herself. It's better that you don't turn to me on that matter any more. Best..." 1
Oregon_Dude Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Or you can text back: "I think it's best for you that you focus on freshman year. High school can be tough. Don't compare yourself to the senior girls; their bodies have simply had the chance to develop. You are only a year away from getting your learner's permit! Driving will really give you a sense of independence. I'm happy for you. Always do your homework!" 1
Author Samuel_22 Posted September 11, 2015 Author Posted September 11, 2015 (edited) I gotta admit... I am seriously confused here, it seems to me everyone has a point...But NO NO NO....to hell with them all....why should I even bother myself to text her little sister BACK? what if this is contrived and my ex is the brain behind all this, to see if I am still available to her or not...to see whether she can still manipulate me or not!!! I am a ghost...NONE EXISTENT...I am not willing to hear from her nor her family no one...One month ago when I texted her and told her I was melting in pain, she did not even bother to answer...She even did not give me the right to be sad, and criticized me for being sad...now all of a sudden things are wrong, and they say Samuel is the saviour? haha funny... @ DrReplyInRhymes: Coincidence or not, I am fully healed, or I am still healing, well to be honest I can never figure out, your type... I am not mr N.sync, I am not an angel with a forgiving heart, I can be a prick...I can hate, I can take revenge, because you did not do things I did for her, because you were not the one who spent all those emotions and time on her, because you were not the one who was shot dead.... have you ever borrowed money, to buy a birthday present for your gal? huh? have you? have you ever stayed up late until 4 o'clock in the morning to finish your gal's project for a month because, she has exams and she can't finish the project in time? have you ever traveled miles, to get her something she likes? and this is what they do! leave you...And I have to to pay off my debt with this month's salary for god's sake you are insane....I am born with this attitude, I am cursed with this curse to just curse...and sorry for that dude....by the way don't you wanna tell me you are her little brother? Edited September 11, 2015 by Samuel_22 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 You don't have any idea if what the sister is saying is even true. Maybe your ex had a fight with her boyfriend and her sister concluded they'd broken up. Perhaps your ex is just fine but little sis is bored and wants to stir up some gossip. The point is that you cannot and should not assume anything unless you hear it from the horse's mouth. Don't take this as some opportunity to get in touch with your ex. She hasn't contacted you herself, so you can assume she's still not interested in reconciling. 1
Author Samuel_22 Posted September 11, 2015 Author Posted September 11, 2015 You don't have any idea if what the sister is saying is even true. Maybe your ex had a fight with her boyfriend and her sister concluded they'd broken up. Perhaps your ex is just fine but little sis is bored and wants to stir up some gossip. The point is that you cannot and should not assume anything unless you hear it from the horse's mouth. Don't take this as some opportunity to get in touch with your ex. She hasn't contacted you herself, so you can assume she's still not interested in reconciling. Thanks for the response... even if she wants reconciliation, I don't....to hell with them all... I have enough crap in my life, that I don't have the time to even think of her... I am fine...she is fine too? cool... she is not? why the hell should I care? I am even happy if she is not fine....it is a good feeling... reminds me that no one dies virgin at least...
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