guild11 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Hey guys, I been in relationship with my GF over 4 month, I will be honest - its my 1st serious relationship which includes strong feelings. At the beggining we spent each night together, we slept like 2 hours each time, texting each other everyday and couldnt wait to see each other while we were apart. She confessed first and said she loves me and after a while I realized that I love her too. With time she started giving less attention, usually would reply with closed answers or act cold. I decided talk to her about it and she said "its nothing unusual we are both loving and serious" she said she isnt that kind of a person that gives all the attention but she is willing to try for me. One day I decided to be like her, no texting or calling all day, by the end of the day she called me and asked me "do you remember that you have a GF?" I made and excuse that I was busy but she stayed upset. Few days ago all of sudden she sent me a message saying "listen honey... I really really like being with you, I love you and I know that you love me and I'm happy that we have each other" she is 26 and I'm 25. Why when she never texts/calls its ok ? But if I act the same she starts asking question... I really wanna give her all the attention but it feels one sided when I'm the one who gives all. What do you think ?
BikerAccnt Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 (edited) Some people are just like that, you can't kill yourself over analyzing it. My GF of 1.5 years is very similar. She sucks at initiating texting or phone convo's. She really blows hot and cold about it. She'll be good for a week, calling, or texting; both in initiation and responding, then..nothing. She won't initiate texts and takes forever to respond to them, if she does at all. Same with phone calls Why? Who knows, I've given up trying to fathom it. It's just the way she is. Sure it bugs me, but in the big scheme of things, not so much. When we do talk, and do see each other, it's pretty clear how she feels about me. After all, we're still together. --Oh, and don't fall into that trap of who's doing what more, or feeling that things are all one sided. It will build resentment. If you feel like calling or texting, just do it. If you don't feel like it, don't. But don't ever do something because of how you think it will effect your GF. That's just being manipulative, and you wouldn't like it if it was done to you. -- I still text my GF good morning every day, even though I don't always get a response to them. But I know she see's them, and appreciates them. She's told me she looks for them every morning. So response or no, she gets one. Because, I want to do it. So take your GF's words at face value, and try not to read to much into her communication style. There's really not too much you can do about it anyway. Edited September 11, 2015 by BikerAccnt
Author guild11 Posted September 11, 2015 Author Posted September 11, 2015 Some people are just like that, you can't kill yourself over analyzing it. My GF of 1.5 years is very similar. She sucks at initiating texting or phone convo's. She really blows hot and cold about it. She'll be good for a week, calling, or texting; both in initiation and responding, then..nothing. She won't initiate texts and takes forever to respond to them, if she does at all. Same with phone calls Why? Who knows, I've given up trying to fathom it. It's just the way she is. Sure it bugs me, but in the big scheme of things, not so much. When we do talk, and do see each other, it's pretty clear how she feels about me. After all, we're still together. --Oh, and don't fall into that trap of who's doing what more, or feeling that things are all one sided. It will build resentment. If you feel like calling or texting, just do it. If you don't feel like it, don't. But don't ever do something because of how you think it will effect your GF. That's just being manipulative, and you wouldn't like it if it was done to you. -- I still text my GF good morning every day, even though I don't always get a response to them. But I know she see's them, and appreciates them. She's told me she looks for them every morning. So response or no, she gets one. Because, I want to do it. So take your GF's words at face value, and try not to read to much into her communication style. There's really not too much you can do about it anyway. Thank yoy for your reply, it made me change the way I think a bit, but I still wonder ... Why in the beginning she was more active ? How come I remained with my affection for her while she changed ?
coryreply Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 I think it's somewhat natural for relationships to fall into this kind of mode after a few months of dating. You guys started off hot and heavy, this is probably a more sustainable pace for her. I would talk to her about it and tell her how you feel.
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