mystikmind2005 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 'wants to date but nothing serious' I often see this on the dating site POF I'm looking for opinions on what people think is the most typical/common meaning and intent for most women selecting this option? Link to post Share on other sites
Siquijor Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 She wants sex POF really stands for Plenty of Fun Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 She wants sex POF really stands for Plenty of Fun This. Ignore what a woman puts down on pof. Most say they want a relationship just so they don't look slutty but they will go home with a guy on the first date if they find him hot enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mystikmind2005 Posted September 11, 2015 Author Share Posted September 11, 2015 She wants sex POF really stands for Plenty of Fun Except quite a few of them add in the further details something along the lines of how they are not looking for a hookup. I was thinking it means she wants to speed date through allot of guys, but does not want them to get too close while she secretly hopes to find something special? does this sound rite? Link to post Share on other sites
Otter2569 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 I have good luck on POF. Honestly I say I want a relationship because that's what most women want. To me "dating" is code for "looking for a good time" and will repel some woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 'wants to date but nothing serious' I often see this on the dating site POF I'm looking for opinions on what people think is the most typical/common meaning and intent for most women selecting this option? They aren't dating with the goal of a committed relationship. They like being single and dating casually or just like hook ups. If you are dating for a relationship, don't date these women. Link to post Share on other sites
J21 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Wants to f*ck with no strings attached. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lokin4AReason Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 no commitment or just a friend w/ benefit(s) .. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Some people take it literally and just want to gently meet people and see where it goes. Some people use it to refer to just wanting to go out. Some people use it as just want a shag... Only way to find out what her interpretation of it is - is to ask her. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 I take it at face value, so something more than a one night stand but less than a boyfriend, i.e. fun without long term commitment. They want sex but they want to be wined and dined a bit too. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 To me it reads " wants to date, but will put in the bare minimum of effort required to make that happen." 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Or secretly wants a relationship but doesn't want to seem clingy out of the gate. Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 (edited) 'wants to date but nothing serious' I often see this on the dating site POF I'm looking for opinions on what people think is the most typical/common meaning and intent for most women selecting this option? I come across this A LOT. a lot of older women like these doing OLD. they are divorced, dont want a serious committed relationship. they had a bitter divorce and dont want something serious again. they want monogamy, and sex will come down the line. but they have a lot of things in their life. friends family children activities work and once in a while they want someone to take them out for a good time or when her clit needs attention. but its strictly "I stay here, you stay there and once in a while when im bored or horny well get together for fun. it will never be more than that though." no marriage, no moving in. a poodle who will comes when she whistles. btw, you get a lot of women who write "im looking for a serious relationship only" but it means the same. monogamy, but no moving in or marriage. Edited September 11, 2015 by rocketman122 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 'wants to date but nothing serious' I often see this on the dating site POF I'm looking for opinions on what people think is the most typical/common meaning and intent for most women selecting this option? they want to "netflix and chill"--which is another way of saying FWB. They'll call when they're horny and when it's over, you gotta go home--you don't spend the night. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 I come across this A LOT. a lot of older women like these doing OLD. they are divorced, dont want a serious committed relationship. they had a bitter divorce and dont want something serious again. they want monogamy, and sex will come down the line. but they have a lot of things in their life. friends family children activities work and once in a while they want someone to take them out for a good time or when her clit needs attention. but its strictly "I stay here, you stay there and once in a while when im bored or horny well get together for fun. it will never be more than that though." no marriage, no moving in. a poodle who will comes when she whistles. btw, you get a lot of women who write "im looking for a serious relationship only" but it means the same. monogamy, but no moving in or marriage. True. There are quite a few of those in the 40+ crowd. It's not a bad thing if you are also very busy with work, children, and activities. I date them but I do it only on my terms- she has to accommodate my schedule. If I'm free I will see her, if not I won't. I'm not a poodle who comes when she whistles. If she can't meet me on my free days it's easy enough to find someone who can. Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 True. There are quite a few of those in the 40+ crowd. It's not a bad thing if you are also very busy with work, children, and activities. I date them but I do it only on my terms- she has to accommodate my schedule. If I'm free I will see her, if not I won't. I'm not a poodle who comes when she whistles. If she can't meet me on my free days it's easy enough to find someone who can. no it isnt. if both want it. Im looking for a part B relationship. im not in a rush, but do want to marry and move in down the line. basically a 2nd marriage. I have a hard time finding a woman for that. all had bitter divorces and want a long term relationship. but something thats convenient and with "space and distance" thats not for me though. I had something similar with my ex. I hardly met with her kids. only slept over when the kids were at the father and basically came there once or twice a week, went out to dinner, had sex at night, slept over and then went back home the morning after. I wasnt part of the day to day. talking yes, but there was a lot of distance and space. and I mean this with physical distance ( 1.2 hour drive) and space because there was always a barrier of how close she would get. I never got more than what I gave. the scales were very weighted on one side. Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 It means she wants to keep it casual. She wants to date you, probably have sex with you, but not to enter a committed stage. She may or may not be seeing others. Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 'wants to date but nothing serious' I often see this on the dating site POF I'm looking for opinions on what people think is the most typical/common meaning and intent for most women selecting this option? Translation: I'm bat$#!t crazy and even though I'll say I don't want any drama in my life, I'm a drama factory. And I have a cat that won't like you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jam.over.jelly Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 I personally listed "Wants to date but nothing serious", cuz I'm not actively seeking a relationship, but at the same time I want to date and if anything comes out of it, great. That's my perspective. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 (edited) I personally listed "Wants to date but nothing serious", cuz I'm not actively seeking a relationship, but at the same time I want to date and if anything comes out of it, great. That's my perspective. I agree with you jams. Everyone starts out dating casually. Then, if and when you meet someone you totally click with and it feels right, you want a RL with *that person*. IMO, starting out with you are looking for a relationship may scare off some people, as they might wonder ... ...with anyone? Some people may view it as a bit desperate. I don't do OLD ....so I am just speculating, but that is what I would think. Bottom line, don't read too much into it. Just meet and see what happens from there. Edit: Not to mention, how many times have we heard stories of people (men mostly) thinking they *were* looking for a RL, only to find when they were actually in one, they didn't want it after all... Edited September 11, 2015 by katiegrl 2 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted September 12, 2015 Share Posted September 12, 2015 Except quite a few of them add in the further details something along the lines of how they are not looking for a hookup. I was thinking it means she wants to speed date through allot of guys, but does not want them to get too close while she secretly hopes to find something special? does this sound rite? And yet, I've hooked up with women who have said they were not looking for a hookup. The weird part is I didn't even try to hook up with those women. They came onto me. Lol Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 12, 2015 Share Posted September 12, 2015 And yet, I've hooked up with women who have said they were not looking for a hookup. The weird part is I didn't even try to hook up with those women. They came onto me. Lol Ironically it seems the ones who say they don't want a hookup are more likely to hook up with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mystikmind2005 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 Well, it is interesting how most people assume I'm looking to date a woman who put this option. My big secret - its a shocker, so prepare yourself.... it was the option my recently separated (January this year) wife put on her profile!!! The juicy details are this.... throughout our relationship she was basically not interested in sex, even before we got married. She has no sexy clothes at all. never once approached me for sex, doesn't masturbate ever... etc etc. The last 3 years of the marriage we only had sex twice.... prior to that all the rejection had worn me to the point i just gave up asking. I was kind of experimenting in a way as well, i wanted to see how long this woman will go without saying or doing anything about our sex life. The answer was apparently, 'forever'. But pretty stupid way of thinking on my part, and certainly not the only stupid thing i was thinking and doing. Anyway, what else happened, when i first put my profile on POF that is when i saw her profile, the next day it was gone. I presume she must have seen my profile appear and did not want me to know (i did not click on her profile, so she would think i did not see it). I kind of felt bad after that because i do want her to be happy, and i have been wondering if i should encourage her to put it back up,, but if she is after hookups then i can imagine that conversation would be horribly embarrassing for her? Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Well, it is interesting how most people assume I'm looking to date a woman who put this option. My big secret - its a shocker, so prepare yourself.... it was the option my recently separated (January this year) wife put on her profile!!! The juicy details are this.... throughout our relationship she was basically not interested in sex, even before we got married. She has no sexy clothes at all. never once approached me for sex, doesn't masturbate ever... etc etc. The last 3 years of the marriage we only had sex twice.... prior to that all the rejection had worn me to the point i just gave up asking. I was kind of experimenting in a way as well, i wanted to see how long this woman will go without saying or doing anything about our sex life. The answer was apparently, 'forever'. But pretty stupid way of thinking on my part, and certainly not the only stupid thing i was thinking and doing. Anyway, what else happened, when i first put my profile on POF that is when i saw her profile, the next day it was gone. I presume she must have seen my profile appear and did not want me to know (i did not click on her profile, so she would think i did not see it). I kind of felt bad after that because i do want her to be happy, and i have been wondering if i should encourage her to put it back up,, but if she is after hookups then i can imagine that conversation would be horribly embarrassing for her? she probably saw your profile and configured her profile from not showing up in your searches. thats a tool thats possible. she might have gone into your profile in stealth mode (possible) and then blocked u from allowing to find her profile. meaning she blocked you. click on ther profile and youll notice its either not active or not possible to even see it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mystikmind2005 Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 she probably saw your profile and configured her profile from not showing up in your searches. thats a tool thats possible. she might have gone into your profile in stealth mode (possible) and then blocked u from allowing to find her profile. meaning she blocked you. click on ther profile and youll notice its either not active or not possible to even see it. Ahhh yea, she would totally do that if its available. Link to post Share on other sites
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