Just want get her out my head

[thunder777]

The break up has happened, her lifestyle wasnt for me and I wasnt comfortable

1. Cleaning an ex boyfriends house for cash
   
2. Bottle of wine "everyday", wine on a drip
   
3. Smoking 10 bongs a day
   

 

Anyways this my 5th day of no contact, and there is no evidence of her or memories anywhere, I have no way of contacting her, so there is no leak, which is great

 

Im trying to get on with my future, but Im still waking up every morning and all i can think about is her, arguing and fighting with her in my head, and now as days go by kind of missing the good times and longing for those a little

 

I want to apply my energy to new girls, but i just cant be bothered, im not being flerty am uninspired, and dont want to rebound on someone, but i know a few dates will brighten me up a bit

 

How can i release my mind from someone who doesnt exist anymore

 

Thanks for any help

[Satu]

Don't even try to stop thinking about her.

 

What you are experiencing is part of the healing process, and is completely natural.

 

After a while the thoughts and feelings will recede.

 

Trying to stop thinking about her will just keep you stuck where you are now.

 

Your mind isn't your enemy and it's doing what it needs to do to heal itself.

 

 

What your resist, persists.

 

You get what you resist.

 

 

Take care.

[Stage5Clinger]

It hurts for a long time but it hurts worse if you don't totally let her go.

[dumbass2]

Don't keep it bottled up. Think about her, it's only natural. Just avoid the contact, which sounds like you are and that should help you move forward in time. What finally helped me when I couldn't stop thinking about her, was what can I learn from the relationship and once I did that and looked for what I could do better next time, it really helped. Now I do think about her once in a while, but I'm not obsessing and only think about some of the good times as well as what I've learned from it.

[thunder777]

thankyou guys, i can refer to your help when i get cranky about missing her and your words give me strength

 

sometimes missing someone though makes me feel weaker down and out, its hard to differentiate this as being healing or crumbling

 

but no contact although tough to do is certainly working

 

guess its just the side effect of becoming single... being lonely again

[Hipster_22]

Just because you miss someone does not make you weak in any way. It is natural to miss someone that you love and does not mean that you are a weak person. No contact is very difficult. I am going through a NC period (instigated by her) and it is tough. You feel like contacting them badly but you have to resist for your own good. If you do contact them then you will be back to square one. You said you deleted evidence of her so that is good, but now it is just a waiting game. It has only been a few days, for both of us, but there is nothing you can do now even if you are thinking about her a lot. Just keep doing what you are doing and you will get better in time- it may not feel like it but you will.

 

Good luck