Amilcar Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 I've been having a hard time lately, dealing with a steady round of rejection on the dating scene. I live in a very large city, so the options are endless, but for the past 2 months I feel like I've been ending up on dates with women whose attraction or interest in me is pretty low. I've never really dealt with this level of consistent rejection before. I'm no adonis, but I'm reasonably attractive, tall, in shape, well-educated, have all of my teeth... In the past, whether it was online or through in person approaches I tended to meet women who were interested, and dates felt like actual dates instead of amorphous meet ups. The one variable that's different seems to be my heavy reliance on Tinder of late. I've gone out with 8 women off of Tinder and each date is more disappointing than the last. Before I meet up I try to gauge what people are interested in and see if it's a match--I want a relationship or to at least date someone semi-consistently. Is Tinder really just awful? I started using it because I heard positive things. But as the rejections or low interest levels pile up I'm starting to question what the majority of users are really on there for. My gay friend said it's like a hetero Grindr, but I'm not getting laid or advancing in my march towards a successful cuffing season so I'm not quite sure. I have a feeling most people in my city might be using it for networking. I'm going to try to go back to my bread and butter--in person approaches and some specific dating sites... but I feel like it's going to be a struggle to regain my confidence after a pretty brutal stretch of flat out rejection. Anybody know how to recover after a similar period of abortive dating attempts?
mystikmind2005 Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 You have the typical wrong perspective about rejection and see it as a negative thing. If you think about it for a moment, try to understand what rejection really is.... it is a get out of jail free pass to move you along quickly to your final destination of finding the right woman! You should also be rejecting women as well, because you should be thinking about what you want, not just relying on women to do all the work, sometimes they get it wrong. Allot of guys tend to think dating is a mission to try to get any decent looking woman that will have them and then that is as far as their thinking goes. Terrible. 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 I need more info in how you succeeded with getting people to multiple date.
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