jr4298 Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Been talking to this girl I see around for a bit and shes a bit confusing. When we first met I was very quiet and she told me to be more friendly, and I did. Then she started play fighting with me, so I did it back. Now shes adjusting the way I do THAT. Why?
pteromom Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Would need more info to answer. When she told you to be more friendly, what were you previously doing that she took as unfriendly? How are you play fighting and what about it is she trying to change?
Author jr4298 Posted September 10, 2015 Author Posted September 10, 2015 Would need more info to answer. When she told you to be more friendly, what were you previously doing that she took as unfriendly? How are you play fighting and what about it is she trying to change? I was just more quiet and shy. Then yesterday she gave me grief for being on my phone for a sec and we went back and forth. Nothing major was said. Then today she said it was too much, but I was just coming back at her. I guess she wants me to be in the middle somewhere. This is just odd to me because Ive had a lot of female friends and they never acted like this.
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pteromom Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 I was just more quiet and shy. Then yesterday she gave me grief for being on my phone for a sec and we went back and forth. Nothing major was said. Then today she said it was too much, but I was just coming back at her. I guess she wants me to be in the middle somewhere. This is just odd to me because Ive had a lot of female friends and they never acted like this. This is still pretty vague. But if you have had many female friends and find her behavior odd, then it probably is. Just be yourself, and you'll either vibe with her or not. One thing is for sure - unless you are doing/saying something that could be taken as disrespectful, don't let her change who you are. You don't have to mold yourself into someone else for her.
Author jr4298 Posted September 10, 2015 Author Posted September 10, 2015 I got you. An example would be that I got on my phone to clock out for lunch. She said to someone she works with "We should ban phones at the line.". She was clearly joking. I said "Oh, excuse me I was clocking out so I dont get in trouble." (Sarcasm). Simple stuff. Ive just never had someone I wasnt dating try to fix me.
Qboro90 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 I got you. An example would be that I got on my phone to clock out for lunch. She said to someone she works with "We should ban phones at the line.". She was clearly joking. I said "Oh, excuse me I was clocking out so I dont get in trouble." (Sarcasm). Simple stuff. Ive just never had someone I wasnt dating try to fix me. Where in this do you get the impression she's trying to fix you? You sound pretty naive as to how females interact and the things they say. Even the example you listed right here above..... What do you see wrong with that? You can't tell that she was just harmlessly teasing you? You took it negatively I have no idea why and replied with a way to serious buzz kill reply. Ever think she's being sarcastic, teasing, play fighting because...... Duh girl might have a crush on you and you're not picking up on it. And just got arguments sake, let's say you were dating her or she was trying to have you make changes to yourself.....why would you feel compelled to do anything? You are who you are. I mean if you think a girl saying "heyyy.... Cmon come talk to me/us, stop being so shyy!" Is a dig at you then you're gonna have some really bizarre relationships with that mindset.
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