civicgirl Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 A little confused about a recent date I had with a man that I reconnected with on social media. There were several mutual “likes” so I decided to bite the bullet and ask him out. I had gone out with one time when I was 19, so we were not total strangers – we are currently in our 50s. We had a great date ... he seemed as engaged and as interested as I was. We closed the restaurant down that evening and when he took me home, he walked me to the door and came inside for about 15 minutes. Nothing sexually happened. I sent him a message thanking him for dinner and a great evening and he responded he also had a great time. But then I did not hear from him until 5 days later when he "liked" a picture I had posted on my social network. I just don't understand and would like some opinions......is he not interested if he hasn’t truly contacted me?
jen1447 Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 He's probably paying too much attention to 'date management' advice, like "NEVER call back within 5 days, EVARRR!" etc. Do you um have bigger balls than him? You asked him out the first time so you might already be the 'boss' of the relationship so to speak. If that's the case he could be waiting for you to tell him what to do 1
Redhead14 Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 A little confused about a recent date I had with a man that I reconnected with on social media. There were several mutual “likes” so I decided to bite the bullet and ask him out. I had gone out with one time when I was 19, so we were not total strangers – we are currently in our 50s. We had a great date ... he seemed as engaged and as interested as I was. We closed the restaurant down that evening and when he took me home, he walked me to the door and came inside for about 15 minutes. Nothing sexually happened. I sent him a message thanking him for dinner and a great evening and he responded he also had a great time. But then I did not hear from him until 5 days later when he "liked" a picture I had posted on my social network. I just don't understand and would like some opinions......is he not interested if he hasn’t truly contacted me? Well, it is certainly not a sign of high interest in terms of a dating scenario. Were you two on the same page in terms of whether this was a "date" or simply just two old acquaintances catching up on old times? If it wasn't clear to him that you thought this was a date, he may have kinda missed the message. In addition, was there any discussion about whether or not he had been dating recently? Is he currently dating people? I am not an advocate for women initiating contact with men, however, you did ask him first and he responded positively, so I don't think there would be any harm in reaching out to him to say something like "I really enjoyed reconnecting with you, I'd like it if we saw each other again". And, let him respond. Don't reach out multiple times if he doesn't respond right away or at all.
d0nnivain Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 I'd back off. Leave the ball in his court but keep your expectations about him picking it up & running with it very low. He doesn't sound all that interested. Since you asked him out, he should have been the one to send the thank you text. If your only contact is that he "liked" something on social media, that is not much interest at all. 1
katiegrl Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 He's probably paying too much attention to 'date management' advice, like "NEVER call back within 5 days, EVARRR!" etc. Do you um have bigger balls than him? You asked him out the first time so you might already be the 'boss' of the relationship so to speak. If that's the case he could be waiting for you to tell him what to do I thought the rule was 3 days? lol Has it increased to 5 now? I haven't "dated" in a few years....so maybe it has. Stupid rule... 5 days seems excessive imo. So does 3 days, when you meet someone you REALLY click with... but 3 days I could forgive... 5 is a stretch. 1
popcornpuff Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Men typically will let you know unambiguously if he's interested in you, especially if he's in his 50s. It doesn't seem like he's interested in pursuing things further with you, sorry
Siquijor Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 If he "liked" your picture I reckon he likes you. Maybe he wants you to chase him. Either that or what the poster in #2 said.
angel.eyes Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Facebook likes got him the first date. By liking your FB posts again, maybe he's hinting that he would like to be asked out on a second date? Sorry, I would let this one flounder away in the pond, or whatever it is he's doing with his FB likes. Minimal interest? Too timid? Unclear how to date? Whatever the case, the outcome is he's not asking you for a date or even engaging in actual communication. Refocus on other possibilities. You're more likely to get somewhere with another guy.
Otter2569 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 i'd probably play his game. Like one of his pics and don't return his call or email when he finally contacts you. I'd move on....
xcupid Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Ask him out if you haven't heard from him. At least you'll know if he's interested or not.
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