hurting

[BklynGuy]

Its been over for a month. She told me I was the "wrong" guy for her. I put a lot of time and energy and effort into this girl. I did anything for her. She was never serious about being a couple. It was just about fun and going out to her - nothing else. She lived with another guy but told me she was gonna leave him. She told me they still slept together & I got really tired of that. We'd go out to bars and she'd talk to other guys like I wasnt even there. Once we were at a bar, I went to the bathroom and she would let other guys buy drinks for her. I couldnt believe the way she'd disrespect me. She would cause these problems for no reason. I think she was a destructive person. One night I was supposed to hang out with her but she blew me off to hang with a friend. The friend cancelled so she calls me back...this was a habit of hers...not sticking to plans. I said no because she blew me off. She then decides to go out anyway and Im sure she went with another man because she had condoms the next day...we never used them once. Another time she was sleeping at my house and I looked in her phone. She always said she had nothing to hide. I found 4 pictures of another mans privates. She already had me and the guy she lived with...how many different guys did she need? After finding those pictures I stopped trusting her, meanwhile she would lie to me on the regular. But I could never stay mad at her. But all the wrong she had done took a toll on me and I was getting hurt that she was sleeping with the other guy. I couldnt take it and we werent happy anymore. She didnt cooperate or seem to have the skills to be in a relationship. She told me she wasnt ready to be in a serious relationship many times and its evident by her behavior. She just wanted to bring it down.....I had so much hope for us to work out but she didnt seem to be on that level. Like she just wanted to explore and experience different people. In the end, I had sex with another girl because we hadnt in like 2 months and she told me she was still sleeping with her ex she lives with. She couldnt take this! She felt betrayed....after I stuck with her through all her bs and mistakes. She left me and just walked away...I asked her not to leave. I stayed with her no matter what she dished out...but she didnt care like she should have. I work with her and have to see her every week. It breaks my heart. I start to feel better but then get depressed every weekend. It could have worked out but she just wasnt on the level and didnt know how to compromise or behave well.

[theblade]

if there is a god...then i think he has just hit you over the head with a hammer and said "WAKE UP!!!"

 

This girl aint the one for you. She wants the best of both worlds..sex and men...then security from you. You cant have both.

 

Dont even contact this girl, shes is not the one for you. I know it will hurt, ive been in the same situation (kind of), but it will get easier. Just keep looking through LS pages, some great advice, for which i am eternally grateful.

 

Its going to be very hard for a few weeks, but life gets better!.

 

Good luck!

 

NC = NO CONTACT!!