MINDSHIFT Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 By far the most depressing week ive ever had. broke up 2 months ago she went back with her ex. Been about 3 weeks no contact. I was doing ok, I went from highs to lows but always had a positive outlook.This week since she contacted me on Monday with an apology, for the argument we had during the breakup I have felt like ****. Ive been sleeping for longer, have no energy and just feel in a ****ty mood. I did not reply thank God. But i have read the message quite a few times unnecessarily and yesterday night in my despair I stalked her social media again. I was on day 4 off not looking at her stuff (second attempt). Now i understand why NC advocates blocking all ways the dumper can contact you. I cant believe or understand why i feel so down 4th day running. Mornings are the worst, when you wake up. Even when the breakup happened the first month I had my down days but i always manage to get myself to see the brighter side. I just feel hopeless and lost. It was also easier the first month as i had more anger towards her. I would love to feel that anger instead of this hopelessness. My thinking is I m down as her apology was quite nice and showed her to be a bigger person. I believe im sympathizing with her, which i hate. she states numerous time of how she crying as writes the email and she felt like **** since the argument. In away i wish she never contacted to me. I just dont know how to pull myself out of this pit of misery today!!
theredpill Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Although it's two months since the breakup, the healing really starts from the last contact and week three is the killer, it's the most lonely time for both parties no matter whether their in another relationship or not. Rebounds are the absolute worst, as the person rebounding takes the new relationship up to similar levels of intimacy as the last relationship. This is a really difficult thing to deal with as a man, who falls in love so much more quickly. Go for a run if you can, in your break or whatever - or get the gym, or go the mall and do some retail therapy, buy some clothes and talk to the pretty assistants for advise, just get out the house is what I'm saying 1
drseuss Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 I know what your saying , Week 1 I was ok then weeks 2-3 I was a total mess ,week I started to feel really good week 5 started great but started to go down hill and now week 6 has been pretty rubbish bit I'm starting to feel good again going into week 7 and through outs it's been pretty up and down , for the first 3 weeks I looked at her fb and spoke to her best friend who I bumped into and looking back it made me feel a little better at the time but then always put me back to square 1. I think the more time that goes by in true no contact you start to miss them so much and as hope fades it really hurts because the chance of reconsiliation is fading , but I think eventually you come out the other side having truly accepted your situation and then can begin becoming 100% indifferent 2
Author MINDSHIFT Posted September 11, 2015 Author Posted September 11, 2015 Day 5 of this sickness. Woke up again late and feeling like **** did not want to get up. I dont understand how her email could of set me back, honestly i thought i was in control. So today i replied I hope i did the right things. I replied just saying i appreciate apology and take care. just a short sentence in comparison to her massive paragraph. I know the advice is to not reply back, i gave it 4 days b4 i replied. I must say i feel slightly better. But i cant get her out of my mind again and my stalking her social media when up by 1000% its becoming crazy.
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