How to interpret this?

[Arun1910]

Me and my ex broke up on July 25th. I had heavy exam resit pressure and for 5 days I was the lowest I've ever felt and I ended up shouting at her... in text on Facebook. We were okay with each other for 2 weeks, she said she understood what happened but couldn't handle me in that state and it scared her. That was until we argued and she blocked me. She said "We will never be friends, we won't ever get back together, any last words?".

 

Fast forward to 3 weeks later she unblocks me. However now she is just being confusing.

 

In one conversation I initiated 5 days after the unblock, or there abouts (And the ONLY one since then because I'm not going to put up with this unsureness from her) she managed to say:

 

• I unblocked you cause I thought you'd grow up (get over her? Idk)
  
• We won't ever get back together
  
• Just forget me
  

 

AND

 

• I am going to add you after your exams in 2 weeks
  
• I still care about you
  
• If anything happened to you I would be hurt too
  

 

So I ended up telling my friend who has been helping me build myself up about this, that I talked to my ex for the first time in seemingly forever. I told this friend that my ex said she was going to add me after my exams. My friend said she knew and that my ex told her I'm going to add him after his exams because i dont want him to think about anything else than his exams.he needs to do them."

 

As you can see, massive contradictory statements, even after the unblock. Also if she already thought I'd be over her why would she say she was waiting until after my exams? Makes no sense to me.

 

I've asked a few friends opinions on this and even her close friends think that she seems unsure of what to do. What do you guys think?

 

Thanks in advance

[Toodaloo]

Your ex is as she is - oh my word what a heap of drama.

 

Just ignore and walk away.

 

You have better things to worry about right now.

 

Your ex is craving drama. Let her go find it elsewhere instead.

 

She is also timing things to mess with your head and play games with you.

 

Let her go.

 

Block, delete, ignore and move on.

 

Good luck in your resits. THEY are what is important right now.

[Arun1910]

Thanks for you reply and good luck!

 

Yes that is what Im doing, the no contact phase allowed me to go back to the gym, study, do my hobbies etc

 

At the moment however, now I don't really mind what happens. I will still love her and care about her because we went through a whole load of stuff but I'm not going to talk to her if she's going to treat me like crap.

 

There are 2 ways this can go:

 

1. Keep it how it is. Just be fine with the unblock and continue to never talk to her again
   
2. She adds me, I accept, wait for her to initiate something.
   

 

Do you not get the sense that she seems conflicted? She's a pretty stubborn person if I'm honest, she will never really change her mind on things. Thats the only way I can explain her behaviour. She made her mind up to dump me, but at the same time now is slowly coming back.

[Toodaloo]

She is playing games with you.

 

She is bored and using you as entertainment. She wants some attention so she is winding you up so she gets some.

 

It really is that simple.

 

Just walk away.

 

In the long run you will heal quicker and realise that this sort of behaviour is not productive or indicative of a person who wants an actual real life relationship.

[BlueBlood]

Walk away. Do you really want to have your attention diverted by someone using friggin Facebook as her weapon of choice?