jen1447 Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 Are you submissive? Submissive ppl are at much greater risk of being doormats. If you are, it might not be so much bad luck as you being drawn to ppl who will misuse you and take advantage of your 'caregiver' traits. Unfortunately there are a lot of women who do that, and the way it usually works is that they have men in their lives who are the 'bulls' (who provide sex and excitement and fulfillment along those lines) as well as caregivers (who provide stability and funds and whatever else is necessary for day-to-day concerns).
Author Guyouthere Posted September 12, 2015 Author Posted September 12, 2015 I believe I am both, balanced that way, its just how I am. I can be any of those things at times, but overall do know I treat women better than most guys as a whole. The right woman for me is one who can appreciate it all from me. I also have a very high standard for women. They must be smart, look at least halfway decent, not smoke, drink on occasion only, not the partying type, not consumed with material things, not a liar or cheat, and even with observation of others around me, I don't see much of that at all where I am. Maybe it is just like that in this area. I dunno. I also enjoy diving and fishing, both of which I do alone (small boat and the type of diving I do as well).
jen1447 Posted September 12, 2015 Posted September 12, 2015 I may have been unclear above but generally different guys fill those two roles (bull and caregiver). Also the traits are pretty diametrically opposed superficially, so it's really hard and unlikely to be both. It'd be like being an outgoing shy guy. 1
Author Guyouthere Posted September 12, 2015 Author Posted September 12, 2015 Traits themselves are opposing, yes, but I am well balanced and exhibit qualities of it all, just depends on the specifics of the situation. I am confident there are no other guys in her life, so that is not an issue. Knowing all of her details, I can't blame her for being confused, but I am not. I have chosen to give her the time because overall, at this point, I know she has to have that. Whether that means a positive outcome for me later on, I don't know. I won't just wait for her either. I have to see some improvement over time in many areas. Her danger is that another woman is going to see the value I have and snatch me up, because it is bound to happen. But yes I can be shy or outgoing as well, depends on what I choose at the moment. I am very analytical that way.
Author Guyouthere Posted September 12, 2015 Author Posted September 12, 2015 I am an unusual guy, I offer a lot of excitement, so that is not an issue for me. Not many guys can compete with me in some areas, which is one reason I know i won't last "on the market" for women. I turn down many, as said I do have a high standard. I won' settle for less. Women have to earn me, but in a good way.
S_A Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Your last sentence sort of bugs me. Man "earns" woman. Not woman "earns" man. Even where the woman asks the guy out first, it's man "earns" woman.
h0000 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 op if you have that much money and love why don't you donate to charity and save some refugees and im serious. wasting your money on trash? you sick?
Author Guyouthere Posted September 13, 2015 Author Posted September 13, 2015 men and women earn each other in many ways. It is built on respect, love, sincerity, and more. There is a serious problem if it is only one sided, and in fact no relationship at all.
Jj66 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Women have to earn me, but in a good way. She did nothing to earn you. She only treated you like **** and you put up with it.
Author Guyouthere Posted September 14, 2015 Author Posted September 14, 2015 Lately she doe s a lot of talk about herself, her feelings, except keeps really quiet when I make comments about our future. She says she has a wall that she put up and needs time to sort it all out.
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