Angeleyez2583 Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 I've been in NC with the ex for the past 2 days. We had a phone conversation the night before for about an hour, and that was it (he called me). I decided I would never call, talk, speak to him again. I want him completely out of my life, and if he misses me, he has to be the one to come back to me. So he's taking this CPR class with me and I have to take it next week on mon and tues. He told me he's taking it those days. There's NO possible way for me to change the class because I have to take the class for summer classes in two weeks. How do I approach this? Seeing him is going to suck. I can't be a b!tch and ignore him (the classes are very small). How should I handle this situation without developing feelings for him again? Thanks guys!
westernxer Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 Like you said, seeing him is going to be a bitch. Just close your eyes, hold your breath, and let him give CPR.
Jadey Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 I have to see my ex every week day and i have 4 lessons with him a week Wot i do is try and pretend he doesnt exist, try not to even look at him. Also i act all happy when im around him eventho im dying inside and i cant tell it quite bugs him, he must wonder why im so "happy". So thats a good one to knock their confidence. Try not to look but if you find yourself looking at eachother look away and act as though he isnt there. Ignore him. But you say oyu cant be that bitcy, thats for you to decide. If you decide you cant ignore him i dont really have any advice except do wot you gotta do and be strong. Just dont act all helpless around him, appear to be happy and confident cos it bugs the hell outta em.
Jadey Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 And i tell you something when ive ignored him and hardley even looked at him when hes been in my lesson or weve walked past eachother in the corridor or hes with my friends, i feel so good. I feel like the balls in my court and ive "won" cos i havent shown him im dying and he probably hates it. Try it. Then again i can say the oppisite aswell when we first split up i looked at him with tears in my eyes and he lookd relly guilty. But id prefer to do the i dont care approach now. They are both pretty effective tho. Wot do you others think?
Author Angeleyez2583 Posted May 14, 2005 Author Posted May 14, 2005 Lol. He was in two of my classes all semester. I guess I'm going to try and leave him with the "Damn that girl is so happy without me and doesn't need me in her life impression". I did that when we had class and when he helped me move, but after the CPR class, NC will be fully initiated. If he wants me back, he's got to realize he misses me (I'm not even viewing the situation that way, all I want to do is move on with my life).
Jadey Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 I dont actually know if im doing the right approach acting like i dont care when i actually want him back He muight think i relly dont want him. Oh well. The real test for me comes when i leave school in 4 weeks. I wont see him then, so we will see if he misses me We cant do full NC when we have to see him eevryday Thats the tricky part..Toknow wot to do.
Author Angeleyez2583 Posted May 14, 2005 Author Posted May 14, 2005 Well I mean, I'm not going to COMPLETELY shut him out of my life. 2 1/2 years is a long time to be with someone. Anyway, if he calls me I plan on calling him back a day later or so. I have never once told him I want him back. You're right. I don't want him to think I've completely moved on but begging them back only pushes them away. My plan is just to show him I don't need him and maybe he'll come back. If he does, he's going to have to prove he won't break my heart again.
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