XianErick Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Hey just wanted to rant, Met up w/ this girl I've been into for a while. She kinda likes me, I REALLY like her! So we meet up late at night, I ask her out, and then ended up staying over twice She breaks up with me the morning after I left how unfortunate! Still wake up thinking about her lol but I respect her choice of "not wanting to jump into anything." At least she told me outright. Her reasons were: we went to fast, it got too serious, and she doesn't know me very well. We still talk, though I'm not sure if I should be (trying to) courting her! Anyway I won't be putting all my eggs in one basket but I really hope she thinks about taking me seriously
kassy Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Why not call her and say you'd like to try again and take it slowly, and would she like to go out to do "insert some activity she might like that doesn't involve having sex in any way", and if she says yes, take her on the date get to know her and just give her a kiss at the end of the night when you drop her home. Or even better make it a weekend day time date. She may say no, but you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by trying. Just keep it PG 13 for a while and get to know her 1
Satu Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Too much too soon and too little too late are two sides of the same coin. Pace yourself in a realistic way.
Author XianErick Posted September 10, 2015 Author Posted September 10, 2015 Yeah definitely a pace issue I'm hoping too little too late isn't my next stop I'll be out of town this weekend. The second day I took her to breakfast, but she was hungover fml. So she didn't wanna eat... Ended up buying myself food and a cold water for her as requested. Intimacy aside we were overly sensual and I assume that's what spooked her. Just as much her fault as mine! I too left thinking how to stay with her yet tone things down. She suggested square 1 and that's not exactly arguable but hey I will take the fighting chance cause I really, really enjoyed everything
TouchedByViolet Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Unless you are being a stage 5 clinger pace isn't that important... Just an excuse to hide the real reason she isn't interested. On to the next...
Author XianErick Posted September 10, 2015 Author Posted September 10, 2015 Trust me I wasn't too sure it was her real reason either! Maybe she wants to keep it casual, or keep it casual with multiple people, or she could easily be friend zoning me. I mean I'm dating others too. She's just got more of what I'm looking for.
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