Mosaic Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 (edited) I'm so confused! My ex just blocked me on FB yesterday. A month after breaking up with me and never making any effort to talk or show he cares since. My ex bf and I were friends for years prior. He was married and had kids in that time. We saw each other at group functions often. He's now been divorced for a few years. Back in March a few of our friends suggested that we go on a date. So we did and hit it off almost immediately. To make the background as short as possible, in the following months we fell in love, spent nearly everyday together (with his kids too). Talked of marriage, traveled, met his friends and family, all the solid relationship things. I even stayed with him in between houses. Things started to fall apart when his single and jealous best friend started making fun of him for being in a relationship. So my ex started to act different towards me. We started to argue alot and I let anxiety get the best of me. Finally one morning I told him I wasn't happy and he stayed out all night with this said friend and the next night I lost it when he came back. Crying and grabbing him trying to get him to listen to me. He left the house with the friend again and I had a panic attack. He returned the next day with this friend in tow and they proceeded to kick me out together. His friend then purchased him a ticket for a vacation for that weekend to get him away from me. The same friend publicly bashed me, and even sent group texts to my ex's friends to make fun of the situation. My ex has been very influenced by this jerk. It's unbelievable. (My ex is 38 and his friend is 39 - amazingly immature) When the ex returned from this vacation, we talked for a bit and saw each other a few times. He initiated getting back together with me, but made it clear that he wasn't going to tell anyone that we were back together. He was clearly embarrassed about how his friend made our issues public and me out to be crazy. We went on a trip we had planned months before and he refused to post anything about it on social media (like he didn't tell anyone he was still going) and spent the entire time criticizing me for using my phone or texting anyone to the point where I just didn't use my phone at all. He picked me apart for all kinds of things the entire 4 days we were there. Then we met up with some of my guy friends on this trip and he lost it on me. Started calling me names, saying that I "lit up when I saw them" and don't when I see him, and treating me so horrible. I just went to bed and assumed he was drunk. We got back, and tried to work things out. That weekend he went out with this friend mentioned above and got wasted. He started texting me all night that he loved and missed me - it was really nice to hear again. I ended up picking him up since he was so drunk. I dropped him off and went back to my own home. The next day we had plans to hang out. Basically he said he'd call me back and never did. I tried to reach him a few times, to get silence. I ended up meeting a girlfriend at a local bar and I see his and this friends cars in the parking lot. He later texted me (not knowing I was there) and saying he was at a BBQ. I told him I had been at that bar for two hours, but not saying I saw him - though I assume he knew he was caught. His response - nothing. The next day I tried to call, and he was ignoring my calls. Finally he text and gave me the "it's not you, it's me" "I need to get my things back" crap. I just responded "I understand". I immediately decided to go N/C. He text me a few days later for my birthday and I did not respond. Never heard from him again. Not even to get his things back. He and this friend continued to go out and travel. Once we broke up, everyone proceeded to tell me "how out of his league" I was for him, and how stupid he is for what he's doing (even his friends said this). I had no idea I was so much "better" than him. He had cut me down in the end so much, I had felt pretty below him. Fast forward one month exactly from his lame break up text and I notice yesterday that he has blocked me on FB. I presume it's because a few days ago I posted a picture of me and one of my guy friends on an overnight trip and removed my "status" so it was just blank. (My ex and I remained friends on FB because we have so many mutual friends and I personally didn't want to have to answer any questions, so I just went on with my life like nothing had happened. I didn't want him to think I was being "crazy" or even upset at all about him ending our relationship. I didn't post anything about the breakup publicly at all.) My question now is - If he broke up with me and said he'd never feel the same about me again, never called me post breakup, and has been out with his friend non stop, why would he block me once he sees me with another guy? I can't understand this logic. He was done with me. I'm not exactly sure that I want from him - if anything at all. It almost felt good in a way that he had some sort of reaction, but now I am sitting here wondering if he actually cares about me and is suddenly hurt? Any opinions would be great! Edited September 9, 2015 by Mosaic
Qboro90 Posted September 13, 2015 Posted September 13, 2015 Over analyzing a Facebook block way to much. From everything you said your relationship with him was tumultuous and negative in so many ways. He chopped you down and lowered you're own self worth and value, he did things that any other girl would've never put up with in the first place and you just allowed them to happen. You have no idea what his real reason for blocking you was. Might've been that he didn't like seeing you with other guys... Might also be that he's starting to date or do things with other people or other women and doesn't want you to be able to see that on his profile. Asking questions when the answers are useless anyways just does no good. Close this chapter on this guy. Come to terms with that fact that he's never going to become the guy you think or want him to be. At his age, he is who he is and it will never change. Don't use social media as much either. People who advertise their relationship, their problems, their break ups, fights etc are all laughed at by the rest of the Facebook community. No one is interested in why or when you broke up, no ones going to change their opinion of you of him. Keep your private life private
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