Ann1213 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 (edited) I started dating this girl a week after her ex broke up with her. She started flirting and we talked for two weeks before her ex came back crying for another chance. At first she said she was going to give him a chance and the next day she called me saying she didn't want to give him a chance that she wanted me. So we dated for two months before her ex started texting her again. She said she didn't miss him as a bf just cared as a friend. A month ago they hung out and the next day she said she realized she still loves him and that he claimed to be a changed person. We work together right now but in a little over a week she leaves for a new job. The past two weeks she has been flirting and says she still is confused but for me to not have any hope. Also that she wishes she could combine us together. the problem is I really fell for her and she knows that. I feel like maybe she is playing games before she leaves but I've also been told by many people that they won't last. I'm confused if I should try to win her back with the NC. I know the she hurt me and is most likely no good or will never change. She makes comments about if it doesn't work out she will come back but I know I shouldn't wait around. Confused:/ Edited September 9, 2015 by Ann1213 1
DrReplyInRhymes Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I started dating this girl a week after her ex broke up with her. She started flirting and we talked for two weeks before her ex came back crying for another chance. At first she said she was going to give him a chance and the next day she called me saying she didn't want to give him a chance that she wanted me. So we dated for two months before her ex started texting her again. She said she didn't miss him as a bf just cared as a friend. A month ago they hung out and the next day she said she realized she still loves him and that he claimed to be a changed person. We work together right now but in a little over a week she leaves for a new job. The past two weeks she has been flirting and says she still is confused but for me to not have any hope. Also that she wishes she could combine us together. the problem is I really fell for her and she knows that. I feel like maybe she is playing games before she leaves but I've also been told by many people that they won't last. I'm confused if I should try to win her back with the NC. I know the she hurt me and is most likely no good or will never change. She makes comments about if it doesn't work out she will come back but I know I shouldn't wait around. Confused:/ If you have feelings for her, then distance yourself from this mess, You're only damaging yourself, and she's obviously isn't upset, She basically just told you that she's going back to her ex, If you DON'T have any feelings, then I'd say keep it as a FWB for sex! 2
ScienceGal Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I started dating this girl a week after her ex broke up with her. This was your mistake. You allowed yourself to the her rebound. I just posted in another thread about how people shouldn't get into a new relationship before they're indifferent to their ex. Often times when someone is rebounding, the person they end up with doesn't know... but you did. A week is way too short of a space between relationships. People who do this are incapable of being alone and/or not dealing with their pain and hurt in a healthy way. Sorry you're hurting. Learn from this and move on. 2
MINDSHIFT Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Dont wait around go NC RIGHT AWAY. I was in similar situation, outcome was alot of wasted time, she went back with her ex. Dont do it to yourself, confused girls are the worst. Who wants them dumb bitches have some self respect m8. Who wants a girl who is indecisive on which guys she wants. Let her make the mistake of going back to her ex, she probably realize her mistake when the cracks begin to bleed through again. Whatever you do, dont be needy and desperate. Dont declare your love, dont compare yourself to her ex. dont say things like "i will treat you better then him". Hold your head up high and move on. You dont want to look like a weak punk. I learnt the hard way. The heart wants what the heart wants, dont think you can influence her mind by doing anything, ur only likely to prolong the inevitable. Find a girl with no baggage, no strings no silly exes who can easily come back. 1
theredpill Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Sorry to hear about your situation, but you should never ever ****ing get involved with someone where the ex is still in the background, because when you do, the chance of you falling for them and them leaving you for the ex is around 90% You did this to yourself dude, so the next time you meet a girl and there's any sign of the ex in the background, tell them to get in touch with you when the ex situation is sorted and move on and don't talk to them. People in pain have no idea what they want and when they do decide, it's the person they've got the most time with. 2
Nolan 93 Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 I was in a rebound for nine months, the longer the relationship the harder the pain is. She moved on back with her ex, and I moved on with anther girl five months later. Just forget them cause they don't want you, that's just how it is. 3
drseuss Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Firstly I'm sorry to hear your feeling heartbroken and secondly , we'll one to the "I ignored the red flags , got into a rebound and now I'm heartbroken club " there are loads of members here including me But on a serious not I'm in the same boat mate ,10 months with a girl who was fresh out of a 12 year on off r/s , she ,like yours , always said she didnt want him back blah blah blah , he ust to cotact her , one day they met up , we ended up breaking up because she said meeting him made her realise she still loved him ,one week later we were back together but things were never the same and we eventually broke up , she said all that ,one day we might work and how bad the timing has been and hearing stuff like that doesn't help , I still hang on to them words a little ... When an ex is lingering the chances of them ****ing up ypu r/s are high if their bre ak was on good terms and there are still feelings , I wish so much i walked after the first break because we had only been together a couple months , I let it go on for 6 more months and fell in love with her Here I am nearly 7 weeks n/c still up and down ..... Just walk and try to forget aboit her ,she has soon forgoten aboit you 2
Samuel_22 Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 I started dating this girl a week after her ex broke up with her. She started flirting and we talked for two weeks before her ex came back crying for another chance. At first she said she was going to give him a chance and the next day she called me saying she didn't want to give him a chance that she wanted me. So we dated for two months before her ex started texting her again. She said she didn't miss him as a bf just cared as a friend. A month ago they hung out and the next day she said she realized she still loves him and that he claimed to be a changed person. We work together right now but in a little over a week she leaves for a new job. The past two weeks she has been flirting and says she still is confused but for me to not have any hope. Also that she wishes she could combine us together. the problem is I really fell for her and she knows that. I feel like maybe she is playing games before she leaves but I've also been told by many people that they won't last. I'm confused if I should try to win her back with the NC. I know the she hurt me and is most likely no good or will never change. She makes comments about if it doesn't work out she will come back but I know I shouldn't wait around. Confused:/ Well...welcome to the club mate...my girlfriend of 7 months dumped me for her ex too...Read this story...her fault entirely, she had lied to me and told me she had not been in a relationship for a loooooooooong time haha that bitch....after break up I realized she had not been in a relationship with her ex for one month when we two made friends... things were going great, until she says she is confused, she does not know what she wants, blah blah, almost 3 months ago she broke up with me, and refused to tell me the reason, a week later she came back and said she couldn't live without me and she loved me, so we were with each other for another 1month until she said she did not want to bother anymore, that her interest level had dropped (supposedly comparing to her ex, in accordance with my speculations they were in their honeymoon back then) and that she wanted to leave, I thought it was just like the last time, so I went NC...one of my friends who claims he has supernatural abilities to contact ghosts and had proven this to me in the past told me she was with her ex, but she was not sure blah blah...In desperation, took out my cellphone, messaged her and asked, ''have you reconciled with your ex?'' yes she says, and then says I don't know if I have made the right choice blah blah...I wanted to marry her, so in absence of any good ideas, and the fact that I was in love with the witch back then, I asked, ''is it the end of us?'' she swears to go she does not know, she also tells me we might be the right people to marry, so I left the doors open, and here we are on month has passed and still nothing from her... But how have I changed? Well after a month, after grieving days and nights, after pain I felt in every single bone in my body etc etc... I understood that I don't want her anymore...back then I was desperate to take her back, but now not anymore... I have become much stronger since then, and I don't want her to come back anymore My friend with my supernatural abilities, told me this morning things are going bad between them, and she will come back in a month, I told him,''can you do anything to stop her from coming back to me?'' and he said no...then I though well if it is true, it can't be that bad, I will have the opportunity to take my revenge myself, karma aside dude...take it easy....believe me things are not as bad as they seem they are, right now I am happy she is out of my life, I have a lot of time for myself, I can save money, meet new girls, grow a beard, do whatever I want to do...and THEY? trust me on this that they are not happy, bear in mind divorce rate is 50%, 50% of couples stay with each other, and out this 50% thing, only 3% are happy... shocking statistics, someone trustworthy provided me with, but it is their problem now...for you? Smile...we are blessed that these people showed us their true color so soon...we are lucky, we were not in 5 year old relationships huh? so we can move on faster
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