no-one-in-particular Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 (edited) I recently went through a hard break up and just really need to get this off my chest. I was pretty much in a three way relationship (or so it seemed) but I get to that in a little bit. I've been friends with her for years and we lost touch abit but then we met up and neither of us skipped a beats. we ended up getting into a relationship. I fell in love with her and her daughter but then her ex started calling and texting turning up to the house confusing her child and confusing her. she left him because he cheated on her while she was at home minding her child and his. she never told her child that she had been cheated on and her child missed his which was hard. then his messages started using the children as leverage how his child misses her and her child started turning up when he knew her child would be there bringing her child gifts. it put a strain on the relationship and she said she needed to give him another chance for the children's sake my confidence is at an all time low. Edited September 9, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and punctuation ~6 1
ScienceGal Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I'm sorry you're going through this, but it doesn't seem like there is much you can do. She made the choice to give him another chance. 1
Samuel_22 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I recently went through a hard break up and just really need to get this off my chest. I was pretty much in a three way relationship (or so it seemed) but I get to that in a little bit. I've been friends with her for years and we lost touch abit but then we met up and neither of us skipped a beats. we ended up getting into a relationship. I fell in love with her and her daughter but then her ex started calling and texting turning up to the house confusing her child and confusing her. she left him because he cheated on her while she was at home minding her child and his. she never told her child that she had been cheated on and her child missed his which was hard. then his messages started using the children as leverage how his child misses her and her child started turning up when he knew her child would be there bringing her child gifts. it put a strain on the relationship and she said she needed to give him another chance for the children's sake my confidence is at an all time low. There is absolutely nothing WE can do at the moment...I said ''we'' because I lost my girlfriend to her ex too... I was thinking she was the one and wanted to marry her, everything was great...all of a sudden, she tells me that she feels confused, that she does not know what she wants, and here I am, she chose her ex over me and it has been a month, I have not heard of her...nothing The thing you should know, and the thing we can do now is to stick to a plan...It is an arduous task, for initial days/weeks/ and sometimes months... but what we are doing is gonna help us to get ourselves back... remember getting her back means nothing, if you cant get yourself back...stick to NC...It is hard I know...grieve if you have to...and try to wipe out everything that reminds you of the relationship...calm down, and know that...this is not the end of the story, this might be the end of that person's story in your life...and that's all...but you are the main character, you will always be...you will experience this roller coaster of emotions, don't worry though whenever, sadness settles in, know that you are getting stronger...it is gonna be like this for a while, but I promise, you will feel better and better everyday...to the extent that not only don't you think of her, you appreciate her going out of your life...she might come back one day, in your case, it is really probable...but if I were you, I wouldn't take her back...meanwhile while you are NC work on yourself, to improve yourself in every aspect...now it is the best time to be your best version...
ScienceGal Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 ^^^ this is why people shouldn't get into a new relationship until they've moved on to the point where they would not go back to their ex. So sorry to you both.
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