j_mysterio Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 So my girlfriend is a hairstylist.... she gives out her cell phone number to her clients even though her work has a land line to call and schedule appointments. In the past we have had confrontations aboutrandom clients (guys) texting her at like 1 in the morning with random flirty texts and what not she just started at a new salon and I asked her if it would be a problem if she just started giving out the land line to the business instead of her personal phone number. She acted angry... the only reason I want this is because if the roles were reversed and a girl texted me at 1am flirting with me, different girls, on different occassions.... she would be pissed and I would no longer be able to have them as my clients. I'm not a hairstylist, this is just hypothetical but I KNOW for a fact due to her jealousy this would not be okay. She keeps the clients, idc, but is it that big of a deal to stick to the land line... in all seriousness this isnt fair to me due to the "respect" not being returned in the hypothetical situation. I've deleted girls off my fb just because she "doesn't like them" for her. When it comes to her being a hairstylist she says "I dont understand the industry". Am I crazy? I'm not angry about the number... I'm angry about the role reversal, double standards. Inpuuuuut please. Thank ytou guys.
Author j_mysterio Posted September 9, 2015 Author Posted September 9, 2015 Her new workplace is a small shop. When I go to Saturday's to get my hair cut, I don't get the hairstylist number so I can text her... I just go to the shop... if I really liked how my hair was cut, I'd ask her schedule. Once again, am i insane? Lol
losangelena Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Based on this thread and the other one, it sure sounds like your GF likes drama!
Author j_mysterio Posted September 9, 2015 Author Posted September 9, 2015 Thank you for noticing... honestly. I'm just wondering if I'm being selfish... and getting help working through problems, rather than bottling them up
Zagan Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Well maybe these guys feel like they were given the go ahead to flirt since they were given a personal number? (I'm not saying that's right, but some people take things the wrong way). Does seem odd since she isn't free-lance to give out a personal number. Maybe she just likes the idea of having her own number given out so she can establish her own clientele that prefer her cutting their hair and makes her feel like she's great at her job, rather than just having them all call an impersonal landline. But the guys are probably well aware that there is a landline and this may contribute to them getting the wrong idea about her personal number. But to her it's probably a sign of popularity and feeling like she's establishing herself in her job. So that's why she'll get p1ssy.
pteromom Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I really like having my hairstylist's direct #, and probably wouldn't want a stylist I couldn't reach directly. However, her CLIENTS shouldn't be sending her flirty texts. And if they do, she should respond in a curt and professional manner, about their HAIR. This isn't a problem with giving out her # to clients. It's a problem with your gf's ability to create and maintain boundaries. Having her stop giving out her # isn't going to fix that. 4
kendahke Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I call my stylist's salon to make my appointments. I never call her directly for anything. Is she using her cell phone as her main means of scheduling her appointments until she's more settled in the salon? Yeah, you can ask her to stop giving out her cell number and she can tell you "no". What have you got planned for that?
Versacehottie Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I see why she does it, even though I'm not in her industry. That way she keeps her clients no matter what salon she moves to. It's financial stability for her. At my salon the idiot receptionist messes up the appts which is a nightmare so I would love the direct contact with the hairstylist. My hairstylist gets mad when the appts aren't scheduled right and it loses them money and clients get irritated. What she should do is get and 2nd cell that is for her work purposes and only use it during work appropriate hours. And yes as someone said above she needs to draw the boundaries with her clients. If it's happening with more than a couple guys, I think she's giving them the impression somewhere along the way that it would be ok to text or call that late with a flirty vibe. Not cool and you should draw the line about it. 2
Siquijor Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I asked her if it would be a problem if she just started giving out the land line to the business instead of her personal phone number. She acted angry Strange that she never gave an explanation to why she uses her personal phone number but instead reacts in such a defensive manner! Says it all really! Add the flirty texts at 1am to the equation and it's a guilty verdict from me. Throw this chick to the dumpster my friend. She sounds like an immature attention seeker who doesn't care about your feelings.
blackcat777 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 As a licensed professional in the beauty industry, I will say that it is extremely common--and also very wise--to give clients a cell and maintain a client base outside of the shop. If you ever want to change locations, clients = money, and very often cosmetologists take their client base with them. That being said, all communications should be professional and business related. As a bartender, guys used to hit on me all the time. I'd imagine any cute girl in a people profession will be hit on. But I never hit back. This is the part you and your GF have to discuss... your boundaries. A cell phone is part and parcel to maintaining steady income in the majority of salons out there. Ditching it for a land line would be the equivalent of a small business not maintaining a mailing list or a social media presence. How she uses it is the issue... Hope you guys can work something out. If she refuses to keep it business only, or acts defensive about that... I might call red flag.
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