adrian77 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I guess I am a lot more picky and shy but she has been with 7 men just this year since her divorce. Coworkers, meeting a few online and going to their houses the first time the meet? That can be dangerous. Giving all of them oral? I just can't go down on a guy I don't l know well. It's just kind of a turn off to me. Sure I did a few things like that in my late teens early 20's but we are 40 now. I just don't get also how her and others don't know how to date? I'm married but when I dated I actually went on dates. Kissed some guys. They can't help but go right for their anatomy on a first date. Almost like they are nymphos? My one friend has had random unprotected sex with people she had met at bars.
Redhead14 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I guess I am a lot more picky and shy but she has been with 7 men just this year since her divorce. Coworkers, meeting a few online and going to their houses the first time the meet? That can be dangerous. Giving all of them oral? I just can't go down on a guy I don't l know well. It's just kind of a turn off to me. Sure I did a few things like that in my late teens early 20's but we are 40 now. I just don't get also how her and others don't know how to date? I'm married but when I dated I actually went on dates. Kissed some guys. They can't help but go right for their anatomy on a first date. Almost like they are nymphos? My one friend has had random unprotected sex with people she had met at bars. Well, if these women want to do that, that's they're prerogative. However, if they are dating because they are looking for a real relationship, they need to learn how to control their urges, that's for sure. A woman doesn't know what a guy's attitude about women's sexual "freedom" when she first meets him. Some guys will not make a judgement regarding the woman for having sex early and looking for a relationship. Since she doesn't know "who" she's deal with yet, it's best to err on the side of caution and hold off for a while. If the guy has an issue with waiting for sex, then he's not the one for her anyway. It's not really about being a prude, it's about knowing what you want and proceeding in a manner that helps toward that end. A woman in her 40's etc. who is sexually indiscriminate but looking for a relationship, is either desperate or just plain clueless. If she just wants casual relationships with sex, fine.
d0nnivain Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Her values aren't your values. She may be unhappy & is using these ONS to temporarily make herself feel better. Either cut her out of your life because you disapprove of her choices or support her in the other areas of her life & turn a blind eye of her dating.
central Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Maybe someone gave her a "Man of the Month" club subscription for Christmas - you just haven't heard about Mr. August yet. I think she's getting her freedom on after her divorce, even though you disagree with her celebratory methods.
Grumpybutfun Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I will never understand why people think other people's sex lives are any of their business. If she is confiding in you and you wish she wouldn't, it is on you to tell her.If her lifestyle choices offends you then maybe you need to find friends who are more to your value preferences. G 4
Author adrian77 Posted September 9, 2015 Author Posted September 9, 2015 I guess I never had many urges since it takes a lot for me to be attracted to someone. I get grossed out by most men (except for my husband and a few men I dated and had crushes on) but if they have hair, mouth, eyes, teeth I don't like I'm turned off. I'm not into women though so not sure of my problem. They seem to go fro anyone that shows them attention. This last guy she got with was hot though and she is 100 lbs overweight and not very attractive face wise.
stillafool Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I imagine a recently divorced person is like a kid away at college. They now have their freedom and want to have fun. I would also imagine that these recently divorced women are not looking to get back into anything serious for a while. Don't judge them let them be.
Lois_Griffin Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 This last guy she got with was hot though and she is 100 lbs overweight and not very attractive face wise. Well that explains it. She's having sex with them because she knows they probably don't see her as long-term girlfriend material and is maybe hoping she can endear them to her with sex.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I will never understand why people think other people's sex lives are any of their business. If she is confiding in you and you wish she wouldn't, it is on you to tell her.If her lifestyle choices offends you then maybe you need to find friends who are more to your value preferences. G All of this. Who cares, really? 2
Jj66 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 It's common to go through a promiscuous phase right after a divorce. I know I did. I tripled my number in the 3 years after my divorce. I didn't start out being a man-whore but after my rebound relationship ended I started having a new partner about once a month. Only one ONS though and I have always used condoms.
Gaeta Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 She just got divorced so she letting loose. It's not your place to judge her. It's a phase and she will grow out of it eventually.
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