not spoke for a week and seeing him tonight?

[shadyp]

Hello everyone... back on here after yonks years

 

So me and G stopped speaking last Thursday. Mt story unfolds like this:

 

Last Wed-I had a 'go' at him via text expressing the fact I feel he just doesn't care about me.

last Thursday-I get a text at 5pm asking me to go out for 'food' but hurry coz 'he's starving'-thats the way we speak... I ignored him. I then got a EMAIL asking me to check my phone. He was being silly and texting sill ynames but again I IGNORED.

I then called Orange to bar my phone so from say 6PM onwards I have no idea what he said to me. He probably did call my phone and get a disconnected line. I'm guessing to this he got annoyed and thought 'sod her then'.

Usually he would email me if ny phone was unobtainable.

Sunday- I emailed him as I couldn't help myself asking him ' what happened on Thursday-was she busy?'

I unsurprisingly got no reply.

Wednesday-I have to see him tonight as we are in a group together. I was not going to go but I am here to ask should I or not? If I do how do I act?!

Do I go in my true colours=upset, no make up, feeling grey and terrible OR do I put my brave face on and look good and show him I am OK without?

The thought of it knots my belly. I have been drving myself mad with this and need some mutual advice.

 

If worst comes to worse I may have to leave the group but I do not want too-why should I!

 

Thanking you in advance... and breath:confused:

[d0nnivain]

If I knew I was bound to run into an EX I would make every effort to look stunning.

 

 

Going forward stop trying to have emotional conversations via text & don't play games. If there are issues talk about them.

[mightycpa]

you picked an emotional fight with him via text, and he didn't get suckered into one..

 

the next day, he ignored it, and tried to get together with you as usual. I'm assuming that in retaliation, you ignored him.

 

The profound differences between what he did and what you did are thus:

 

You:

-- tried to deal with an emotional issue via text

-- stopped communicating for all things

 

He:

-- didn't want to deal with an emotional issue via text

-- reached out quickly after ignoring you

-- went to extra lengths to alert you to to his attempt to contact

 

Maybe, I doubt it, but maybe he decided that your "drama queen text" deserved a conversation, and that's what he was going to do Thursday, in person. But because you demand immediate attention, you cut him off completely.

 

You seem to be completely clueless about your part in this, except now you're afraid of the consequences of your actions. I'm afraid that you're going to talk, you're going to be your overly dramatic "I need attention" self, and he's going to cave in, accepting your behavior as completely normal. You'll be back together after you have the little fight/makeup cycle you went in search of last week. Then, sometime soon, you're going to blow it up again.

 

Should you act real, or just act unbothered now that you have to see him? Do this guy a favor. Tell him how upset you are. Tell him that you can see that he's not right for you... that you need someone who will show up with candy and flowers and apologies after you ignore them, and clearly, that isn't him. He may not like it in the short run, but don't be afraid he can't handle losing you. He can.

Edited September 9, 2015 by mightycpa

[clam]

Quit playing games with this poor guy. YOU reached out to him, then blocked him when he tried multiple ways to answer you. WTH?

 

Grow up. Makeup, no makeup, what difference does it make? Everything doesn't have to have an ulterior motive.

 

You're not the right person for him so just let it go.

[clam]

Is this the same boyfriend you've been with since 2006?

 

If so, I think it's really time to end this.

[shadyp]

Is this the same boyfriend you've been with since 2006?

 

If so, I think it's really time to end this.

 

 

Hi Clam,

 

No he is not the same BF since 2006-thank shiva. We have known each other for 2 years and been involved for 1 year.

[shadyp]

Quit playing games with this poor guy. YOU reached out to him, then blocked him when he tried multiple ways to answer you. WTH?

 

Grow up. Makeup, no makeup, what difference does it make? Everything doesn't have to have an ulterior motive.

 

You're not the right person for him so just let it go.

 

I am more then the right girl for him. I ignore him when he goes awol. why do guys do this? one day loved up, next day disappeared off the face of the earth. I can sometimes see this break as time for me to chill with my family and do my thing. But when its that time of the month and I become a nervour wreck I just can't be cool...

[shadyp]

you picked an emotional fight with him via text, and he didn't get suckered into one..

 

the next day, he ignored it, and tried to get together with you as usual. I'm assuming that in retaliation, you ignored him.

 

The profound differences between what he did and what you did are thus:

 

You:

-- tried to deal with an emotional issue via text

-- stopped communicating for all things

 

He:

-- didn't want to deal with an emotional issue via text

-- reached out quickly after ignoring you

-- went to extra lengths to alert you to to his attempt to contact

 

Maybe, I doubt it, but maybe he decided that your "drama queen text" deserved a conversation, and that's what he was going to do Thursday, in person. But because you demand immediate attention, you cut him off completely.

 

You seem to be completely clueless about your part in this, except now you're afraid of the consequences of your actions. I'm afraid that you're going to talk, you're going to be your overly dramatic "I need attention" self, and he's going to cave in, accepting your behavior as completely normal. You'll be back together after you have the little fight/makeup cycle you went in search of last week. Then, sometime soon, you're going to blow it up again.

 

Should you act real, or just act unbothered now that you have to see him? Do this guy a favor. Tell him how upset you are. Tell him that you can see that he's not right for you... that you need someone who will show up with candy and flowers and apologies after you ignore them, and clearly, that isn't him. He may not like it in the short run, but don't be afraid he can't handle losing you. He can.

 

I am not clueless about my part in this. I had a go because I am sick of his behaviour to which yes you will say LEAVE. But its not as easy as so...

I try to be cool and not be needy. I stay quiet. I never invite myself round his or rarley make plans because I dont know where we stand with each atm.

 

I didn't think he would have spoken about my drama queen text and he never did. Mans likes to brush things under the carpet.

 

"Tell him how upset you are. Tell him that you can see that he's not right for you... ", told him and left but we just end up reconciling.

 

"He may not like it in the short run, but don't be afraid he can't handle losing you. He can", this comments hurtful and I never said I feel afraid he can't handle losing me. But at the same time I am not gonna think this and not believe in myself.