dano1990 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Hey, My name is Dan and I'm in my early twenties, and I have extreme anxiety and stress the last week, I had some issues my girlfriend, which I am dating for the last three months. we already talked about wedding but when their parents was against it, saying I wasn't religious enough for her, it started to get all wrong.. I can't sleep for the last week I can barely concentrate at all at work.. and I'm unable to work, I have pain in my chest feeling like it's going to explode any moment, huge stress, and I feel like I can't take it anymore. Today I am going to meet her and talk about everything once again, looks like it's the end. I can feel it, since she wanted to break up 2 days ago. I feel like I'm not worthy anymore and I will never be able to get a girl like that. I was single before her for 2 years! and she was the one I was looking for. but it's probably the end and I feel like I will never be able to get girls like that.. looking that good, that beautiful before outside and from the inside, so kind, and caring.. What can I do to reduce this pain? it's unbearable.. I feel like I prefer to die at this moment.
Caslina Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Hi Dan, I understand that you're feeling anxiety and like dying. But it is still not over for you. When you talk to her ask if she still loves you. If she does than you both can overcome anything together. If she is too important for you, work on being more religious. Let her take your hand and go to religious places together learn more and explore that side with her. Try to find a place where you can meet her in her religion. Tell her you want her to guide you and be committed. Good Luck
Keenly Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Don't change who you are to please a girlfriends family. What kind of man would you be? 1
clam Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I think you may be jumping the gun. You've worked yourself up into an anxiety-filled frenzy and she hasn't even broken up with you yet! Perhaps she wants to meet to tell you that she doesn't care what her parents think and wants to be together. You just don't know until you meet. Forget the advice to become more religious just to please her and her family. You have to be true to yourself. What you really need is a good shrink who can help you get that anxiety under control. Preferably with cognitive behavioral therapy, not medication.
d0nnivain Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Of for pete's sake . . . talking about marriage with somebody you have only known for 3 months is not a brilliant idea. 90 days in this should all be fun & light. No marriage discussion & no religious discussions. If religion is that important to her & her family, she needs to date in her religion or you have to convert. If you aren't willing to do that this won't work. That is not a negative commentary on you. It's just the nature of religion. Do seek professional help about your anxiety before you self sabotage your life. 1
Seth0194 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 90 days is real quick to say you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. I was with my GF for 4 years and we started talking about it (talking about it) after about 2 1/2 years, vows are serious and to often want to take them thinking it will show the other person how much they want to be with them. The pain will go away, but as someone said if you are having bad thoughts you need to speak to someone, NO ONE is worth hurting yourself over, everything becomes better in time. Stay busy, get into the gym, pick up a new hobby, visit friends. I am going through a rough patch (at times) I went and rode go carts with some friends, for 3 hours I did not think about be depressed or upset, I lost myself in the moment. Hold your head up and know we are here for you.
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