DC77 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Without completely rehashing other posts, here's a quick run down. I walked away from a 6 month relationship recently. It started out good. We even talked about the future and moving in together. And I knew he was working out some issues, but I was patient and supportive. Until he flipped a switch and started nit picking me to death. He didn't want to end it, but I wasn't going to tolerate the behavior. I walked out. That was over a month ago. I've gone through the gamut of sadness and anger, but know I did the right thing. I can't seem to get him out of my mind though! At first it was just memories. Places we'd been. A song. Talking through the breakup with friends. So I made a conscious effort to stop talking about him. I've tried to keep busy. But even if I go a day without thinking of him, he seems to creep into my dreams. Sometimes good sometimes bad, but then I wake up thinking about him! There has been some contact though. Very limited, but text contact. And I broke down and even tried to reconcile. Maybe there was a reason he was on my mind so much I thought... But he's not "really" interested. So now I want him out. I don't want to think about him. I don't want to dream about him. I've deleted every picture and deleted his contact. Not out of anger. I don't carry hate. More out of self protection so I can move on. Out of site out of mind. I want to be able to get him out of my mind and sleep in peace!
DivorcedDad123 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 It takes time. Not someone elses timeline, but your own. Live your life, be kind to yourself, and be open to the possibility of a new, better relationship. Kudos for establishing your own boundaries. Many ignore theirs, to their own heartache of staying with someone for too long when they didn't respect themselves enough.
Redhead14 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Without completely rehashing other posts, here's a quick run down. I walked away from a 6 month relationship recently. It started out good. We even talked about the future and moving in together. And I knew he was working out some issues, but I was patient and supportive. Until he flipped a switch and started nit picking me to death. He didn't want to end it, but I wasn't going to tolerate the behavior. I walked out. That was over a month ago. I've gone through the gamut of sadness and anger, but know I did the right thing. I can't seem to get him out of my mind though! At first it was just memories. Places we'd been. A song. Talking through the breakup with friends. So I made a conscious effort to stop talking about him. I've tried to keep busy. But even if I go a day without thinking of him, he seems to creep into my dreams. Sometimes good sometimes bad, but then I wake up thinking about him! There has been some contact though. Very limited, but text contact. And I broke down and even tried to reconcile. Maybe there was a reason he was on my mind so much I thought... But he's not "really" interested. So now I want him out. I don't want to think about him. I don't want to dream about him. I've deleted every picture and deleted his contact. Not out of anger. I don't carry hate. More out of self protection so I can move on. Out of site out of mind. I want to be able to get him out of my mind and sleep in peace! Be patient with yourself and accept the fact that it is a grieving process. Some people find it useful to set aside some time each day - 15 mins to half and hour - to simply sit with their feelings. Allow them to come to the surface for a bit and at the end of that time, force yourself to do anything else that will distract you from it. Clean closets, do a project you've been letting slide, go out with a friend you haven't seen in a while. Force yourself to become distracted. The next day sit with feelings again. It takes a little practice, but it does get easier. You will notice that you need less and less time for processing and that will help you gauge your progress toward recovery rather than having the "mystery" of when it's going to end. When you "see" results, you'll feel encouraged and keep moving in that direction
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