rayday89 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Hi there. I'm currently dealing with a recent ex of mine who is very much popular and well known at my place of work. It's really frustrating because I have this odd feeling that his acquaintances and friends are either taking pity on me or now seem awkward whenever I say hello or smile at them. I know I really ought to not care, but this is my place of work that I just started working at about 3 months ago, so it's bumming me out that I may already have a reputation because of him. Additionally, I find it frustrating that no one knows just how awful and crappy he acted towards me towards the end of the relationship. I'm not sure how best to handle this situation. I've maintained a strict no contact rule, even though he has texted me recently asking about my first day back from vacation. I ignored the text and take every measure I can to avoid him at work. However, he's like this dark cloud above my head because I physically see him every day and hear about him through co-workers. I even see his new boyfriend around all the time. It's really not ideal, lol. Any advice?
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Does he actually work with you in the same environment, or is he just well-known there (if so, it sounds like a gym....)? Your option is to either leave - or - leave. In order to take control of the dynamic, you have to change it, because carrying on as you are is clearly not working, is it? I know it seems unfair to let something like this make you alter your own pattern of behaviour, or MO, but short of approaching everyone, and asking them individually to not interfere, not talk about him - or you - and to let the matter drop (which I can already see is totally unworkable, right?) you have little choice or alternative but to seek other employment.
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