Ara-bella Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Recently, my boyfriend of a month invited me to his cousins wedding later this month. He's the most loving awesome person so I don't mind taking this next step. I have a few concerns: one, He's only planned on having a first brief meeting between his parents and I (5 min or so) before the wedding, yet I'm gonna be seated with them the whole ceremony while he's up in the front since he's part of the wedding court. Two, he's Mexican and I'm Filipino. Is there a serious barrier I'm looking at here? He's told me his family is very interrogative, almost nosy, but a lot of them can only speak Spanish so we really can't communicate. Is this a huge setback? :/ And if anyone has tips for just general etiquette with meeting a S.O.'s family, not to mention at a big event like a wedding? Or even just when I meet his parents. I really don't want to screw anything up and want them to see I'm a good match for him! Thank you!
mystikmind2005 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Perhaps It's a surprise wedding? YOURS! Meet the parents just in time for them to walk you down the isle!! Ok well at least it can be a nice fantasy to secretly imagine on the day
sandylee1 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Just be nice, polite and friendly with them. If you can meet them before the wedding that would be a lot better. Another tip - if any practical help is needed on the day, use your initiative and he'll out. Hopefully he'll be sitting with you during the reception and not much talking is required during the ceremony. Hope you have fun.
d0nnivain Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Dress conservatively. Smile a lot but don't stress about it. He's asking to sit with them in a Church. He's not asking you to give them a kidney or be trapped in a car with them on a long road trip with out him. Once the ceremony starts there is no opportunity to talk. As the guest make sure you take the seat on the inside & leave the aisle to people who know the bride & groom.
Lois_Griffin Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 He's told me his family is very interrogative, almost nosy, but a lot of them can only speak Spanish so we really can't communicate. Is this a huge setback? :/ Setback? I see it as a God-send. 3
MissBee Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Just be friendly and polite and, as someone else said, if any practical help is needed offer to help. I don't think there will be much talking during the ceremony so you should be fine as long as you're friendly, you smile and are polite. Relax and have fun and don't worry too much about impressing them. Of course you should care about it, but don't get caught up in thinking you need to be perfect and act in a particular way.
Author Ara-bella Posted September 15, 2015 Author Posted September 15, 2015 Thanks for the tips everyone! I'll try my best and just be polite Any tips on meeting just his parents at their home today? He says it will be brief, just a 5 minute or so meeting then we're going to head out. Should I bring like a candle or something? I'm pretty new to this! Thank you:)
Redhead14 Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Recently, my boyfriend of a month invited me to his cousins wedding later this month. He's the most loving awesome person so I don't mind taking this next step. I have a few concerns: one, He's only planned on having a first brief meeting between his parents and I (5 min or so) before the wedding, yet I'm gonna be seated with them the whole ceremony while he's up in the front since he's part of the wedding court. Two, he's Mexican and I'm Filipino. Is there a serious barrier I'm looking at here? He's told me his family is very interrogative, almost nosy, but a lot of them can only speak Spanish so we really can't communicate. Is this a huge setback? :/ And if anyone has tips for just general etiquette with meeting a S.O.'s family, not to mention at a big event like a wedding? Or even just when I meet his parents. I really don't want to screw anything up and want them to see I'm a good match for him! Thank you! want them to see I'm a good match for him! -- Why do you feel the need to prove anything to them? He's the one who needs to see that you are a good match for him. Just be yourself and enjoy the time spent.
Jacob_Duluoz Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 If you were to gift, I would go with a small amount baked goods. Filipino, not Mexican although there are similarities from the Spanish influence. The barrier is much less than you would imagine in this situation. Food is the way to people's hearts.
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2015 Posted September 15, 2015 Any tips on meeting just his parents at their home today? He says it will be brief, just a 5 minute or so meeting then we're going to head out. Should I bring like a candle or something? You are on the right track but a plant, chocolates or some type of homemade coffee cake would be preferable to a candle. Smile. Be gracious. Use your company manners. No PDA in front of the parents. Shake their hands hello.
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