hakim Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Hey guys, thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm in a bit of a pickle. For the last couple of months I have been dating 3 women. Two of them I met on nights out, and the last, of two weeks, at a shopping centre in town. I feel like I'm still getting to know them and I really haven't made my mind up whether I would want commitment. I've let all 3 of them know what's going on, so they know everything... I'm trying not to lead them on or anything. Anyway, my parents really don't approve, my mum especially. Every time I bring a girl back she'll be like "Which one is this?" and I find it really rude. Why is it bothering them so much? How can I change this situation for the good?
Diezel Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Why are you bringing women back to your parent's house? Let alone any version of the 3 of them? That's pretty rude to them, don't you think? Just stop bringing them over, problem solved. 6
cif Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Do you live with your parents? If so, then they have the right to ask you not to bring them. If not, it's none of their business. 1
Redhead14 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Hey guys, thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm in a bit of a pickle. For the last couple of months I have been dating 3 women. Two of them I met on nights out, and the last, of two weeks, at a shopping centre in town. I feel like I'm still getting to know them and I really haven't made my mind up whether I would want commitment. I've let all 3 of them know what's going on, so they know everything... I'm trying not to lead them on or anything. Anyway, my parents really don't approve, my mum especially. Every time I bring a girl back she'll be like "Which one is this?" and I find it really rude. Why is it bothering them so much? How can I change this situation for the good? How old are you? And, you shouldn't be bringing dates home until after you've at least declared exclusivity. Don't bring your dates home. 1
stillafool Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 You need to move out of your parents home and then date as many women as you want.
Author hakim Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 QUOTE=Diezel;6535836]Why are you bringing women back to your parent's house? Let alone any version of the 3 of them? That's pretty rude to them, don't you think? Just stop bringing them over, problem solved.[ QUOTE] How is it rude? Each of them are very polite to my parents and don't cause any issues.
Author hakim Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 QUOTE=stillafool;6535857]You need to move out of your parents home and then date as many women as you want.[ QUOTE] I'm moving out next week, so it won't be an issue... but it shouldn't be an issue anyway!
oberkeat Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 How is it rude? Each of them are very polite to my parents and don't cause any issues. It's rude because you are parading women through their house, and basically rubbing your sex life in their face. 1
sandylee1 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I'm moving out next week, so it won't be an issue... but it shouldn't be an issue anyway! It's their house, so they're rules. Date as much as you like from next week. The girls will be doing the same too. 1
jam.over.jelly Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 sorry to ask a question that's not related to your thread but how do you juggle three at the same time? It's totally ok to date 3 girls since you're not exclusive with any of them, just wanted some insight cuz I never understand how this works, lol.
Jj66 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I have 3 steadies and occasionally date others. It only works because the women are mature and grown and have lives of their own- aka not a bit needy. I have had a weekend in which I went on 4 dates: Friday after work for drinks and sushi followed by dancing with another woman. And then one on Saturday and one on Sunday. I try to avoid scheduling two dates on the same day as a matter of principle. I would hate to to have to leave when the conversation is going well in order to go meet someone else. My problem is I like them all - I really do - and I am also completely terrified of falling in love again which might happen if I dated just one. I have no idea what I will do come valentines day. I guess I need to break it off with a couple of them before then.
oberkeat Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I'd have 3 girlfriends if I could get away with it.
Jj66 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I'd have 3 girlfriends if I could get away with it. What is there to get away with unless you've promised exclusivity? It's a lot of trouble though. Why don't you take two of mine? At least it would solve Valentines Day problem for me
oberkeat Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 What is there to get away with unless you've promised exclusivity? It's a lot of trouble though. Why don't you take two of mine? At least it would solve Valentines Day problem for me Haha! It's more of a logistical issue. I don't know where I'd find time to service three women
Ruby Slippers Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Don't bring anyone home to meet your parents unless you're serious with her. 4
brokengirl85 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I really can't imagine three women dating you, honestly. They must have have very low self esteem :/
Diezel Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 How is it rude? Each of them are very polite to my parents and don't cause any issues. Absolutely cannot wait until you have a daughter, and then she's bringing 3 very polite guys over. 1
jam.over.jelly Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Do u talk to all three of them every single day?
Lois_Griffin Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Anyway, my parents really don't approve, my mum especially. Every time I bring a girl back she'll be like "Which one is this?" and I find it really rude. Why is it bothering them so much? How can I change this situation for the good? Well dear, as long as you're living under your parent's roof, they can have an opinion on anything they feel like having an opinion on. How do you get all your girlies to come over? "Hey, come home with me and hang out in my room at my parent' crib."
Lois_Griffin Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 So if you're moving out in a week, why even start this thread supposedly seeking advice on how to deal with your parent's disapproval of your multi-dating? It's a non-issue in 7 days. Oh, now I get it. You just needed a way to brag about dating 3 girls. Gotcha.
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