Threwmyselfintowork Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Well here goes I was in a long term relationship maybe that ain't rite long term servitude I don't know I was with her for 15 years I was happy very but it all came down 4 years ago she forgot to pick me up from work and I walk home and in on her with a friend of ours going at it needless to say the whole thing came apart to the point that she had slept with all my friends and half of my family well since then I have tried to start a new relationship with a wonderful woman the best I have ever met it was going good then she tried a mind game on me I called her out about it she showed me proof that she was just trying to get me to see her as a great person for me basically she wanted me to pull her to my side and hover around with a stick to keep others away but it comes down to the fear of the mind game's that was played on me that I'm so on the lookout for it I went back to driving a truck and I only go home once a year if that so I'm tired of working as much as I do I'm tired of being alone but if I approach a woman I am on the look out for any little slip that sets off any red flag........... To all punctuation and grammar police I'd say sorry but I really don't care I'm just looking for opinions thanks all
Clay Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Its hard to trust again and move on. Did you ever get into counceling? If you didn't you might want to consider it. Are you still with the woman that was playing games with you? If your not in a relationship I would take some serious time to just find you. Learning how to trust again goes hand in hand with knowing you. Learning what you want and what you will put up with. Learning how to communicate what you expect. Hopefully you did not have kids with your xW. If you did I feel horrible for you. C
TrustedthenBusted Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Trust: It doesn't really exist when you think about it; at least not in the way we all wish it did. I mean...what is it anyway? Webster calls it, among other things a "reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence." Key word here is reliance. Trust means you are RELYING on someone else to meet your expectations, and that is as good as it gets. It does not, will not, and by definition CAN NOT guarantee you protection from anyone, or anything. So can you trust the next one? Sure...go ahead. But can the next one still rip your heart out? Yep. And dating....these days....it's like the friggen the Hunger Games. "May the Odds Be Ever In Your Favor."
Mr Mind of Shazam Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Personally, I don't think any woman is worth the protracted pain and effort that you must bear for reconciliation and renewed trust. I'd rather start fresh with another woman and not deal with the specific baggage and doubts.
Author Threwmyselfintowork Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Well no kids I was never ready. No I'm not with the one who tried the mind game. Maybe your rite I may need to see a counselor....
TrustedthenBusted Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Personally, I don't think any woman is worth the protracted pain and effort that you must bear for reconciliation and renewed trust. I'd rather start fresh with another woman and not deal with the specific baggage and doubts. Sometimes the Devil you know is better than the one you don't.
nightmare01 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I used to trust my WW 100%, and that was a mistake. I think the mistake was that no one should trust anyone else 100%, because at the end of the day they will look out for themselves first. I think that if you can trust anyone 75%+ then you're generally in good shape. Trusting anyone 100% is just a crazy leap of faith. The only person you can trust 100% completely is yourself. Find someone you can trust 75%+ and know that if they betray you, that you can trust yourself to handle the situation properly. 1
m.snow Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 the truth is... its hard to be a fool again once reality hit you hard in the face. and that stuff like marriage and relationship are truly not binding. to trust someone else wholly is to be a fool. foolishly fall in love again is so hard.
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