Djanga Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 HELP! I really like this guy. Hi! I am (semi-young) F, and I just met a handsome and successful lawyer (early 30s). We went on a date on Friday night, and then another on Sunday night. He's told me that he likes me (*wow means nothing*). I assumed things were going well. On Monday, I was bored so I decided to go to a pool downtown. I told him this in general conversation. He then asked me to "stop by" after I was done swimming (oh no). I suggested that he cook us dinner, and he said it was an excellent idea. Meanwhile, I am swimming and lounging when he texts me this: "What would you say to me joining you around 5 or 6 and then us getting dinner after an hour or two?" I thought wow, amazing! He decided he would run from his apartment, down a trail and across a massive highway to reach me. I was flattered. It took about an hour for him to get there. I was excited when he arrived. We played in the pool together, then blah blah. I went swimming on the other side, and he went to use his cell phone. I gave him some space and swam by myself. After 15 or so minutes, he was looking around for me, so I eventually walked back to him. He told me that he was talking to his male friend about an ebook. Granted, he was actually reading the ebook when I returned. I don't really care (but this cell phone thing says it all). Anyway, we got back in my car because he had ran there. He said we should go back to his house so that he could shower, then we would have dinner. I drove into the general area, but there was no parking on the downtown streets. He said "Okay, stop for a second!" and I did. He then kissed me, got out of my car and said "I will see you again soon!" Oh my god. It is OVER OVER.
Lois_Griffin Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 His girlfriend was probably at this place when he wasn't expecting her. Maybe she got back early from being out of town or something. It sounds as though her car was parked in front of his building and he no doubt saw it as you were circling the area looking for a place to park. The guy's obviously a sleaze who couldn't jump out of your car fast enough when he saw she was there. It ain't rocket science. 1
Zagan Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Oh my god. It is OVER OVER. Is there any need to be this dramatic? So the guy received a call, he didn't tell you to give him space, you did it yourself out of respect. He ran to meet you, literally, so he is clearly interested. On your drive back he was still asking you to go to his house for dinner, he didn't tell you otherwise. If he had made ulterior plans he would have said so, instead of saying again that you should go back to his for dinner. Maybe he viewed you taking your time looking for parking as a sign that you were trying to stall going to his house with him. Or maybe... It was another woman on the phone arranging to meet him and he was too tired from the swim to repeat his highway-superman marathon and was using the 'come to my house' line as an excuse to get a ride home.. I got an idea... Ask him!
Author Djanga Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Of course I think this is the case, unfortunately. We met on the premise that we both wanted a long-term relationship, and I have been to his house before (just to see the magnificent high-rise). There wasn't any girl stuff there. He has just recently moved to the city.
Author Djanga Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Is there any need to be this dramatic? So the guy received a call, he didn't tell you to give him space, you did it yourself out of respect. He ran to meet you, literally, so he is clearly interested. On your drive back he was still asking you to go to his house for dinner, he didn't tell you otherwise. If he had made ulterior plans he would have said so, instead of saying again that you should go back to his for dinner. Maybe he viewed you taking your time looking for parking as a sign that you were trying to stall going to his house with him. Or maybe... It was another woman on the phone arranging to meet him and he was too tired from the swim to repeat his highway-superman marathon and was using the 'come to my house' line as an excuse to get a ride home.. I got an idea... Ask him! Zagan, I cannot imagine asking him about his motives! I did say "Oh, I wanted to do something!" and he said "I'm really tired. Another time. I'll call you soon." Then he kissed me and ran out. Clearly something came up -- another girl, free sex! I will NOT be reaching out to him first. Hell no. 1
Maggie4 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Ha ha ha!! Thanks for sharing the story. He sounds like a fun guy. Full of surprises. If you weren't romantically interested in him, you could hang out with him. If I were you, I'd friendzone him for now, and I'd still want that meal from him!
Gary S Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Must have seen his main squeeze's car at home.
Jules Dash Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 (edited) A couple of weeks ago, a woman I went of a couple of dates with invited me out to a bar hopping night with her friends and some of her siblings. By the time we made it to the second bar, she clearly had too much too drink and it made me feel uncomfortable, especially since she organized the event. I only knew her in our large group but socialized with everyone else with no problem. Still, I had never seen her like that before and it was a turnoff. She walked over to me as I was texting my brother the code to my alarm in my house so he could take my dog out to relieve itself while I hung out with her. As she walked up, I put the phone away. She informed me that everyone was about to head to the next bar. I told her that I was going to leave for the night. I figured it would best to leave in between bars than travel all the way to another bar and drag the night out. She told me it was too bad since she was going to bring me back to her place at the end of the night. I smiled, gave her a hug and left. Now, if she posted about that night here and how I left the party early and seemingly abruptly, many would post that I obviously left because I was texting another woman and not my brother to give him to code to my alarm system like I claimed. Many would say that I decided to meet up with another woman or my girlfriend when that was not true. My point is, that we shouldn't jump to conclusions about these sort of things and admit that we will probably never know the answer about why he decided to change the plans so quickly. It does no good to speculate and often the best thing to do is what was stated above and that is to simply ask. "Hey, I was looking forward to the dinner we talked about. What happened?" Edited September 8, 2015 by Jules Dash
katiegrl Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 (edited) I was excited when he arrived. We played in the pool together, then blah blah. I went swimming on the other side, and he went to use his cell phone. I gave him some space and swam by myself. After 15 or so minutes, he was looking around for me, so I eventually walked back to him. He told me that he was talking to his male friend about an ebook. Granted, he was actually reading the ebook when I returned. I don't really care (but this cell phone thing says it all). Anyway, we got back in my car because he had ran there. He said we should go back to his house so that he could shower, then we would have dinner. I drove into the general area, but there was no parking on the downtown streets. He said "Okay, stop for a second!" and I did. He then kissed me, got out of my car and said "I will see you again soon!" Oh my god. It is OVER OVER. I don't think he was talking to his male friend, nor do I think he was reading an e-book. He was talking to another chick and making plans with her. Maybe he didn't like the way you looked in a bathing suit...who the hell knows. Just next him... Edited September 8, 2015 by katiegrl
Tobin Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I drove into the general area, but there was no parking on the downtown streets. He said "Okay, stop for a second!" and I did. He then kissed me, got out of my car and said "I will see you again soon!" Oh my god. It is OVER OVER. His behavior is rather odd. If you act like you post here, you're a drama queen that no man will want to be around for any length of time. You might want to work on calming down a bit, you'll get further.
Siquijor Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 He decided he would run from his apartment, down a trail and across a massive highway to reach me. I was flattered. It took about an hour for him to get there. That's strange behaviour. Normally lawyers would charge for that. Seriously though, he is acting odd. Could be playing away I reckon!
Lady2163 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 HELP! I really like this guy. Hi! I am (semi-young) F, and I just met a handsome and successful lawyer (early 30s). We went on a date on Friday night, and then another on Sunday night. He's told me that he likes me (*wow means nothing*). I assumed things were going well. On Monday, I was bored so I decided to go to a pool downtown. I told him this in general conversation. He then asked me to "stop by" after I was done swimming (oh no). I suggested that he cook us dinner, and he said it was an excellent idea. Meanwhile, I am swimming and lounging when he texts me this: "What would you say to me joining you around 5 or 6 and then us getting dinner after an hour or two?" I thought wow, amazing! He decided he would run from his apartment, down a trail and across a massive highway to reach me. I was flattered. It took about an hour for him to get there. I was excited when he arrived. We played in the pool together, then blah blah. I went swimming on the other side, and he went to use his cell phone. I gave him some space and swam by myself. After 15 or so minutes, he was looking around for me, so I eventually walked back to him. He told me that he was talking to his male friend about an ebook. Granted, he was actually reading the ebook when I returned. I don't really care (but this cell phone thing says it all). Anyway, we got back in my car because he had ran there. He said we should go back to his house so that he could shower, then we would have dinner. I drove into the general area, but there was no parking on the downtown streets. He said "Okay, stop for a second!" and I did. He then kissed me, got out of my car and said "I will see you again soon!" Oh my god. It is OVER OVER. So you didn't do supper? My first thought was why doesn't he have a car? Second thought was maybe someone else dropped him off at the pool. Have you heard from him yet? Depending on what kind of work he does, he may have had something work related.
katiegrl Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 (edited) >>He decided he would run from his apartment, down a trail and across a massive highway to reach me. It took about an hour for him to get there. ------------------ Seriously, who in their right mind would do this? Run down a trail for an hour to meet some chick at a pool...only to blow her off later? Sounds like he may have been on drugs... Bizzare. Edited September 8, 2015 by katiegrl 1
Mrlonelyone Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 My point is, that we shouldn't jump to conclusions about these sort of things and admit that we will probably never know the answer about why he decided to change the plans so quickly. It does no good to speculate and often the best thing to do is what was stated above and that is to simply ask. "Hey, I was looking forward to the dinner we talked about. What happened?" Yes we should. The conclusions jumped to here are usually right. Assume someone you like is going to betray you. Assume they are going to cheat on you. Even if you are married they are likely on this site or A Married cheater site looking for dirty talk or rough from someone that is not you. Assume the worst and you will never be disappointed.
Jules Dash Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Yes we should. The conclusions jumped to here are usually right. Assume someone you like is going to betray you. Assume they are going to cheat on you. Even if you are married they are likely on this site or A Married cheater site looking for dirty talk or rough from someone that is not you. Assume the worst and you will never be disappointed. I am sorry you feel this way.
Redhead14 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 HELP! I really like this guy. Hi! I am (semi-young) F, and I just met a handsome and successful lawyer (early 30s). We went on a date on Friday night, and then another on Sunday night. He's told me that he likes me (*wow means nothing*). I assumed things were going well. On Monday, I was bored so I decided to go to a pool downtown. I told him this in general conversation. He then asked me to "stop by" after I was done swimming (oh no). I suggested that he cook us dinner, and he said it was an excellent idea. Meanwhile, I am swimming and lounging when he texts me this: "What would you say to me joining you around 5 or 6 and then us getting dinner after an hour or two?" I thought wow, amazing! He decided he would run from his apartment, down a trail and across a massive highway to reach me. I was flattered. It took about an hour for him to get there. I was excited when he arrived. We played in the pool together, then blah blah. I went swimming on the other side, and he went to use his cell phone. I gave him some space and swam by myself. After 15 or so minutes, he was looking around for me, so I eventually walked back to him. He told me that he was talking to his male friend about an ebook. Granted, he was actually reading the ebook when I returned. I don't really care (but this cell phone thing says it all). Anyway, we got back in my car because he had ran there. He said we should go back to his house so that he could shower, then we would have dinner. I drove into the general area, but there was no parking on the downtown streets. He said "Okay, stop for a second!" and I did. He then kissed me, got out of my car and said "I will see you again soon!" Oh my god. It is OVER OVER. Oh my god. It is OVER OVER -- This much angst after 2.5 dates?
katiegrl Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Yes we should. The conclusions jumped to here are usually right. Assume someone you like is going to betray you. Assume they are going to cheat on you. Even if you are married they are likely on this site or A Married cheater site looking for dirty talk or rough from someone that is not you. Assume the worst and you will never be disappointed. It's the ole "hope for the best but expect the worst." Not a bad philosophy.... if you can still keep an upbeat, positive attitude.
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