LookAtThisPOst Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Ha! I don't need anyone to feel sorry for me. I'm taking a guess you complain about this kind of thing in your profile, too?
Kamille Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I'm taking a guess you complain about this kind of thing in your profile, too? **** no. I have much better things to talk about.
Buddhist Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I speak from experience. When I was dating online, I sent out several million first messages that were well thought out, polite, non sexual, light hearted, demonstrated I had read the girls profile, You sent several million msgs? AND managed to read every profile too. I wonder......how many hundreds of years old are you? 2
Author Toodaloo Posted September 9, 2015 Author Posted September 9, 2015 You sent several million msgs? AND managed to read every profile too. I wonder......how many hundreds of years old are you? Make one wonder doesn't it! Well like life in general it has its balances. Had the most gorgeous message today. Absolutely lovely. Such a shame he is on the other side of the Atlantic and I have to work. Would have loved to have chatted to him. Swings and roundabouts. I guess I should be happy for the bad as it makes me appreciate the good.
Zagan Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I speak from experience. When I was dating online, I sent out several million first messages that were well thought out, polite, non sexual, light hearted, demonstrated I had read the girls profile, and demonstrated curiosity -- in other words, quality messages -- and still got few replies. Guys can do everything right with their messages and still get routinely ignored by women on these sites. so making a thread were you complain about the bad messages guys send you, when even a quality message won't get your reply screams hypocrisy. It may scream hypocrisy if you had ever personally sent a 'good' (good is subjective btw) message to Toodles and she ignored you.. Which clearly hasn't happened. You're categorising her among your own experiences of OLD. If you've sent out millions of first messages and got very few replies, has it ever occurred to you that you don't come across quite as endearing as you think, rather than it being the fault of millions of 'hypocritical, shallow, mean hearted' women? 4
elaine567 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 It may scream hypocrisy if you had ever personally sent a 'good' (good is subjective btw) message to Toodles and she ignored you.. Which clearly hasn't happened. You're categorising her among your own experiences of OLD. Even if he had sent a "good" message to Toodles, she is NOT obliged to reply. Why should she? She has not as far as I am aware said she will reply to all "good" messages, so can hardly be called hypocritical if she is merely choosing those to reply to that she finds interesting. Any woman saying she does not like "bad" messages, is NOT giving a free pass to the guys sending "good" messages - to think that way is ridiculous, but I can see some guys do. They think that because she stated she doesn't like "idiots", then they have more of a chance if they come across as a "non-idiot" and are then bitterly disappointed when she doesn't respond to them either. 1
jen1447 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 They think that because she stated she doesn't like "idiots", then they have more of a chance if they come across as a "non-idiot" and are then bitterly disappointed when she doesn't respond to them either. Keyword "bitter." It explains a lot. 1
Jj66 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Bitterness is the least attractive thing in the world. 1
Author Toodaloo Posted September 9, 2015 Author Posted September 9, 2015 Bitterness is the least attractive thing in the world. I have also found its dangerous too... Been threatened by bitter men while trying this whole dating lark and its not funny, attractive or in any way positive at all. Delete, block, ignore is how I deal with it regardless of who it comes from. Even if they come back pleading for another chance... no way josé been there - not going back. 1
Zagan Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Even if he had sent a "good" message to Toodles, she is NOT obliged to reply. Why should she? She has not as far as I am aware said she will reply to all "good" messages, so can hardly be called hypocritical if she is merely choosing those to reply to that she finds interesting. Any woman saying she does not like "bad" messages, is NOT giving a free pass to the guys sending "good" messages - to think that way is ridiculous, but I can see some guys do. They think that because she stated she doesn't like "idiots", then they have more of a chance if they come across as a "non-idiot" and are then bitterly disappointed when she doesn't respond to them either. Well that's the thing isn't it, his idea of a 'good' message is no doubt somebody elses idea of a sleazeball. So it might seem hypocritical to him, but that's because he's being obtuse. 2
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