lxAlexandria Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Well, to begin things off I'll try explaining how everything began. I met this guy through a gaming community, after talking for some time he brought up the idea of us dating, which I openly agreed to considering I highly believed I liked him. I should mention that we live in separate states, so we haven't actually gone on a date, nor met one another face to face but from the minute we started talking about ourselves dating, he talked about how he would come to meet me. The first week of things everything seemed to be running smoothly. He was treating me like a complete sweetheart, and I thought I liked him an awfully lot. But as much as I hate to say it, I'm not entirely sure if I liked him as much as I originally thought. And I'm not sure if this is someone I could see myself with in the long run. We have such different personalities, and such different outlooks on life. There's things that we both like in general, and of course there's things that I do like about him. (He's a very sweet guy when it comes to me, he's caring, he's helpful, he's work-driven, he's supporting himself and is already making a living for himself.) But the differences are; he's a pretty big southern guy. Stereotypical at times I would say. I grew up in the south myself, but the entire lifestyle isn't something I would like to carry on throughout the end of times. He's awfully clingy at times, to where I don't feel like I get enough time to myself. He'll message me in the morning (which I find cute, I'll admit, it's nice to wake up to messages.) But. Then he'll message me every chance he gets during work, and then he wants to call me on his ride home from work, and he'll go to take a shower and call me right after his showers done, and then he wants me to get on the game with him and play it with him which includes talking to him the entire time; and basically, he wants to talk to me until the very last minute he falls asleep (which isn't an exaggeration, he'll stay up talking to me until he falls asleep.) And he's already brought up things referencing the future. He's already dropped the topic of me moving in with him, coming to live with him in his state. He's already talked about how much he wants children, how he at least wants a few. (Another thing which I'll try not making another big paragraph out of) He constantly talks about himself. Not necessarily in an egotistical way, but he's always talking non stop about what happened to him at work, and how he feels about what happened, and how his mother called and how he feels about that. I really don't feel like I can get much of a word in at times without just agreeing and listening to what he says. He even talks over me at times to continue what he was saying. I tried talking to him last week, telling him how I was unsure about things and how I really wanted to take things slow. He told me he was fine with it. But then me, being as unsure and overly confused as ever, told him to ignore what I said because I wasn't sure if it was just me being scared considering I just got out of a relationship with someone a few months prior. (The breakup really devastated me.) I went back to tell him I was pretty happy with how things were going regardless, when they aren't being rushed that is. Because it is partly true, I do enjoy having the company, and its nice having someone treating me so sweetly. But, a few days ago I said something I partially regret. I told him how I was looking forward to meeting him. Which, at the time seemed like a nice thing to say. But with the possibility of him driving to meet me this weekend lingering, I don't know how to take back the words and say that I don't necessarily know if I'm ready. I just don't know if I should go further with giving him the chance, and if I should go ahead and meet him in person before I make the decision. But on the other hand I don't know if I should just go ahead and drop things all together; besides, I would feel awful having him come all this way especially if I'm not entirely sure of things. Thank you ahead of time for any answers.
PegNosePete Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Nothing is real until you meet. You can't possibly make a decision about someone you've never met.
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