What Do?

[Anoymes2231]

Before anyone says what I know what will be said, I do not give up easy and will try and try even if I'm the one that has the last words. Now onto my tale...

 

It all started in January of 2014, as I walked into the classroom I felt watched; as I looked all around I was certain I was being watched. A teeny-tiny female stared straight at me, eyeing me up and down, staring deep in my eyes. As I glanced at her; startled, she looked swiftly away. As time passed; the mutual staring increased, and one night I took the next step. I facebook messaged her! And since I'm such a pimp, I got a day in which we would hang. This was the start of something hidden, something deathly.

 

The day we first hung out, we went to her house. Little warning did I have on how the next event would occur. As I waltzed ever so slowly into the entrance I seen a burly short man sitting on one side of the room, on the other; backturned sitting on a sofa sat an aged version of the girl. No warming introductions occurred, only small-bickering amongst the two strangers filled the room. An invisible piece of tape covered my mouth from then on out, for I had the feelings that I haven't had in so many years; shyness. Their judgmental eyes scorned my quiet words. We went downstairs, and that's where I had my first kiss. (And many months later my first blowjob, my first everything.) The feelings they surged through my veins like no other, for this was the first I've experienced such a thing.

 

Many months passed and we were so insuperable unlike no other.

 

 

*This is a long story, I will update with -more- details tomorrow*

 

*August 2014- She moves away, 3 hours away to a big city for college

*7st September 2014- First "break" due to her parents finding out about my visits to her apartment through the workers of the clubhouse. Big fight. Her mom thinks I stole her purse from their house and breaks into my car, she finds it under computer table. We both find new partners.

*Late October 2014- She comes back to our hometown, we get back together, we ****. One week after she wants another break.

*15th November 2014- Old teacher dies, she visits hometown, we get back together.

*Easter day 2015- Mother makes fun of girlfriends mental state behind back to her entire extended-family, I tell girlfriend and it starts a fight. She breakups three days later

*August 2015- We get back together! We're happy as can be, I drive there weekly on my days off and stay a good 4 days each time. She had a bf for about two n' a half weeks about 5 weeks before August.

*September 5th- We fight... She attempts to breakup over text again. Once I get off of work at 11pm I drive all the way there to find out she's at a family event for the next two days. We're still talking somewhat. She demands I leave and I demand that I will not until we talk face to face. I sit and wait while fighting with her, sleeping in my car on the streets.

*September 7th- She's moving back in with her parents, which live in the same city as her now. And is going back to college to become something else. Needs time to figure her life out again, and doesnt have time to figure out both of us being together right now. I demand her too, and keep my promises of burning the stuffed animals that she no longer cares about if she does this to me again. I did this in front of her, she crys. (Almost burns house down )

She wants to still talk, just no dating, or love you's. Make her promise no other guys or dating sites again, but she does not want anyone else for a fact so I believe her promise. And she's gonna figure us into her world no matter what we will be together. (She also states none of her family likes me anymore so that's another reason for breaking up, as well as the distance(Never a problem before.) and fighting(There wasn't much!?!?!?!)

 

What do you guys think lol

Edited September 8, 2015 by Anoymes2231
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[ExpatInItaly]

What do I think?

 

She isn't ready for a relationship. And neither are you.

 

Burning her belongings is disturbing behaviour on your part. What in the h*ll were you thinking? Not cool. I'd have dropped you right then and there.

 

This isn't some epic love story. It's silly drama. No matter how you try to spin your story to sound like a dramatic tale of scorned love, the end result is the same - it ain't working.

[Samuel_22]

Before anyone says what I know what will be said, I do not give up easy and will try and try even if I'm the one that has the last words. Now onto my tale...

 

It all started in January of 2014, as I walked into the classroom I felt watched; as I looked all around I was certain I was being watched. A teeny-tiny female stared straight at me, eyeing me up and down, staring deep in my eyes. As I glanced at her; startled, she looked swiftly away. As time passed; the mutual staring increased, and one night I took the next step. I facebook messaged her! And since I'm such a pimp, I got a day in which we would hang. This was the start of something hidden, something deathly.

 

The day we first hung out, we went to her house. Little warning did I have on how the next event would occur. As I waltzed ever so slowly into the entrance I seen a burly short man sitting on one side of the room, on the other; backturned sitting on a sofa sat an aged version of the girl. No warming introductions occurred, only small-bickering amongst the two strangers filled the room. An invisible piece of tape covered my mouth from then on out, for I had the feelings that I haven't had in so many years; shyness. Their judgmental eyes scorned my quiet words. We went downstairs, and that's where I had my first kiss. (And many months later my first blowjob, my first everything.) The feelings they surged through my veins like no other, for this was the first I've experienced such a thing.

 

Many months passed and we were so insuperable unlike no other.

 

 

*This is a long story, I will update with -more- details tomorrow*

 

*August 2014- She moves away, 3 hours away to a big city for college

*7st September 2014- First "break" due to her parents finding out about my visits to her apartment through the workers of the clubhouse. Big fight. Her mom thinks I stole her purse from their house and breaks into my car, she finds it under computer table. We both find new partners.

*Late October 2014- She comes back to our hometown, we get back together, we ****. One week after she wants another break.

*15th November 2014- Old teacher dies, she visits hometown, we get back together.

*Easter day 2015- Mother makes fun of girlfriends mental state behind back to her entire extended-family, I tell girlfriend and it starts a fight. She breakups three days later

*August 2015- We get back together! We're happy as can be, I drive there weekly on my days off and stay a good 4 days each time. She had a bf for about two n' a half weeks about 5 weeks before August.

*September 5th- We fight... She attempts to breakup over text again. Once I get off of work at 11pm I drive all the way there to find out she's at a family event for the next two days. We're still talking somewhat. She demands I leave and I demand that I will not until we talk face to face. I sit and wait while fighting with her, sleeping in my car on the streets.

*September 7th- She's moving back in with her parents, which live in the same city as her now. And is going back to college to become something else. Needs time to figure her life out again, and doesnt have time to figure out both of us being together right now. I demand her too, and keep my promises of burning the stuffed animals that she no longer cares about if she does this to me again. I did this in front of her, she crys. (Almost burns house down )

She wants to still talk, just no dating, or love you's. Make her promise no other guys or dating sites again, but she does not want anyone else for a fact so I believe her promise. And she's gonna figure us into her world no matter what we will be together. (She also states none of her family likes me anymore so that's another reason for breaking up, as well as the distance(Never a problem before.) and fighting(There wasn't much!?!?!?!)

 

What do you guys think lol

Seriously? you don' wanna give up? she has already said she wants to just talk, no love words, no nothing...that means in realistic terms, you are her friend, and not her boyfriend anymore, so why did this happen? she has lost interest in you, and I want to say this, that I feel, there's another man in the picture, this always happens, women like exploring, and now she has lost interest in you comparing to the new guy... still she doesn't want to let you go, because she is not sure, she and the new guy can click and whether or not, the relationship will be a good one, so she'll keep you for a while, I would say for a month, then will dump you, but still tells you she might come back, because she wants to have you as her backup plan etc.... dump her first, you will buy yourself some respect, and you can increase her interest level by doing so...it is like a shock, either she comes back to life, or dies for good...I know it is hard...but do it... I wish I had done this myself...

[Satu]

What do?

 

Not do.

 

There is nothing healthy between the two of you, just a dysfunctional attachment and emotional chaos.

 

It would be better for both of you to cut contact with each other.

[d0nnivain]

Before anyone says what I know what will be said, I do not give up easy and will try and try even if I'm the one that has the last words.

 

What do you guys think lol

 

 

I think a big part of maturity is knowing when something is a lost cause. This is your high school GF but even that is a very generous label for this on again off again train wreck.

 

 

Breaking up once & getting back together is one thing but the number of times you have split & reconciled for short times without addressing any of the dysfunction in the relationship shows that it's just not meant to be.

 

 

Let her go back to college in peace. You go off & live you life. The sooner you stop clinging to a past that wasn't working, the sooner you can heal.

[Anoymes2231]

I have never came back to her, she has always came back to me. The reason being is because she could never find anyone else. The last boyfriends she's had them do the things I used to do and it just wasn't the same so she'd always come back to me shortly realizing that. She thinks every time she breaks up with me that it'll get better the next go around. I'm not attached, I've already given up on the fact that we're together and moving on. Considering that I've been with 15 other girls between the times she screwed me over I think I'm doing well with myself, just gets to me when she comes back. I've turned her down and just couldn't keep it that way. I feel sorry for her is the thing and all the memory's we've had. There is no other guy, and I make sure of that I can tell you that right now. And the burning was only to show her I keep my words, and what she's drove me to coming back and leaving multiple times. I'm my own person, she just can't realize that and always has to think she has to combine both our life's together and when I call it out she finds these excuses to leave me. The major problem is her family situation, she has a hard time keeping us a secret I'm assuming and is letting me go for that until she figures stuff out.

 

I know very little of what's happening now, I'm not attached at the hip just wanted to share and see what people thought for the fun of it heh

 

Also, I've always tried asking about the past and she always got angry about it and called me out for fighting. She always wanted a fresh start with me, if there wasn't distance and her family was fine with me then there would be no issues at all.

Edited September 8, 2015 by Anoymes2231